<p>Yes…everyone get the Gardasil vaccine! It wasn’t out before D1 went away to college. I forced her to talk with my gyn before she left for school because she kept saying since she wasn’t sexually active she didn’t need to go in for a visit. After discussion with the dr. she did have her first exam and yep, you guessed it, the results were not good. She has completed her shots but she has now had two more bad results. We’re hoping early screening and treatment will lead to some better results. sigh…</p>
<p>nonplussed, I too admire your reaction. I also believe in a way that it’s good this happened while she was still “in your care” so you WERE able to have these important discussions. When my D went for her first gynecology exam she was really nervous, and I think it helped her that I was with her. She also appreciated how much the professionals there reviewed her options–she felt truly educated and that it really helped her make the right decisions for HER. </p>
<p>She has since been the Volunteer to accompany many of her college friends to their “first” gyn visit, even insisting that some girls MAKE the appointment. It’s surprising how many of them had never had a check up and were scared to death to go.</p>
<p>As far as BC, my D had to try a couple different things. Her regular gynecology office is here, she has had the need for a couple local visits at school.
She discovered that the college health center had its own gynecologist, which perfectly supplemented her medical needs. Hopefully, your D will also find that to be true where she is headed for college.</p>
<p>Given how many teens have sex early, waiting until 18 seems pretty mature to me. And at least it’s with someone she really cares about.</p>
<p>My daughter’s good friend’s mom found out she was having sex with her college boyfried. She freaked out, called her all kids of names, worse still she said to her daughter, “the only reason he went out with you was for sex.” The girl was devastated. So, not every parent is capable of handling this type of situation well. Unfortunately, by handling it badly could have a lasting effect on your child and your future relationship with her. Pat yourself on your back for a job well done.</p>