Advise neighbor who may be making a poor fit choice?

[Chedva]

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It has been very interesting to read all this advice being given to the OP to, essentially, NOT be frank and brutal with the neighbors. On the other hand, most people feel quite comfortable being brutally frank here on this anonymous forum, to total strangers, sometimes with less qualitative information about the prospective student than the OP has about the neighbor’s D.

That’s because:

1. the people who post on CC with questions are soliciting advice; here, we’re talking about unsolicited advice; and
2. IRL, we need to worry about the fallout and effect on on-going relationships. On CC, no such concern.</p>

[atomom]

<p>Good answer, vp!</p>

[ellemenope]

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<p>So next time I am faced with a query from a personal acquaintance about college prospects, perhaps the best answer would be to suggest that they post a query on C/C?<<</p>
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<p>Actually, probably YES…because we all have no emotional attachment or strings with this personal acquaintance and we’ll never meet him or her, then we can give opinions without having to pull punches and this acquaintance can decide what to do with the advice without hurting anyone’s feelings by ignoring the advice.</p>

[vicariousparent]

<p>Chedva: About your point 1) The way I read the OP, the neighbors did, in effect, reach out and solicit advice, by coming over and asking questions. </p>

<p>I agree with your point 2) that the anonymity of C.C. makes it perhaps better than real life for getting unfiltered advice.</p>

<p>ellemenope: Actually I could even look out for their query and then come in as vicariousparent and tell them exactly what I think!</p>