<p>I have stated that everything I have said is true . Why would I ■■■■■ on a site with people I don’t even know ? I never learned to type while I was in HS . I have only been using the computer for about 2 or 3 years on a regular basis . In college I wrote all my papers in cursive as there was only 1 Russian typewriter at school .I also hand wrote all papers or sometimes paid someone to type a formal paper . I really don’t have any friends to chat with about my D ,which is why I turned to CC . My childhood was kind of sad . My parents divorced when I was 2 . I rarely saw him . My dad married 5 times and never seemed happy . My mom left me with sitters often .I went to college w/o parental support . I married someone who turned out to be abusive and actually went into hiding for a while with my 2 year old son . Eventually I married a wonderful man - we have 3 children from our marriage , plus my son from the former . We have been married for 25 years . I have been in and out of therapy most of my life . I haven’t worked much , but been home being a mom - never had a job that required typing ! D is doing better . She has been putting a lot more fun into her schedule . I don’t think she is planning to leave school now .</p>
<p>TMI. </p>
<p>Anyone remember the John Prine song “Dear Abby”? </p>
<p>Glad your daughter is settling down.</p>
<p>What’
s wrong with being a little creative with you’
re punctuation
? Surely we have better things to worry about
.</p>
<p>I can hear John singing–
"Siiii—iiigned, FauxMaven .</p>
<p>For what it’s worth, I have a friend in the same age group as the OP who went to art school after high school and also never learned to type. From time to time she asks me to type cover letters or business correspondance for her. Also, I am 50 years old and can attest to the fact that many kids at my high school did not own typewriters; they turned in handwritten English papers if they were short essays, and either got their mom’s friend who was a secretary or a paid typist to type their draft if it was a term paper. Many kids received electric typewriters as graduation gifts before going to college, just like today’s kids might get a new laptop. So if someone my age went to art school or a trade school it is quite possible they never learned to type.</p>
<p>But that doesn’t mean I understand why fauxmaven is adding a space before her periods!</p>
<p>1moremom–Thanks for that. Hysterical!
“You are what you are and you ain’t what you ain’t”</p>
<p>Or Fauxdaughter singing, “Signed…Just Married.”</p>
<p>Well, add me to the posters who have received a PM. Have not read it yet.</p>
<p>The point is: you asked for advice and (as is sometimes the case on CC) did not respond to the issues raised. People said: agree, disagree, look into legit academic programs or H’s offerings or another agri-opp, get her counseling…and it turns out you sent a few select PMs. No one knows if you are in touch with the reality of what DD is going through.</p>
<p>The issue isn’t your background. Your kid is floundering. </p>
<p>And, why not come back with normal US punctuation? All this is exactly why some people sense something is amiss here.</p>
<p>I apologize if this offends anyone, but: Be a Mom.</p>
<p>I spoke to Resident Dean. Have spoken frequently with D, D sounds much happier. Will deal with Mr. Sweden when that happens. Making effort to fix punctuation. I am trying to respond to the appropriate comments. My D and I are very close these days. Why isn’t it possible that their relationship is still platonic? I figured that they had had a more involved relationship , and was actually surprised when she mentioned that she hadn’t . My husband and I assumed what everyone was thinking had happened , and we were OK with it. She is a very private person, and doesn’t just do things without thinking about it. She actually called me and asked if I would pay for birth control when boyfriend comes !</p>
<p>It would probably be easier and cheaper to get birth control through HUHS; she might want to talk to a Peer Contraceptive Counselor on campus. (Also, free condoms are available in all the houses.)</p>
<p>Now I have a Dear Abby earwig. One of our clever posters should write a CC version.</p>
<p>Dear Abby, Dear Abby, would this be a hook?
I know pi to twelve digits and I don’t have to look . . .</p>
<p>I hope she is thinking about two forms of birth control with one form being condoms.</p>
<p>Info here about PCC- [PCC:</a> sexual health and relationship counselors](<a href=“http://www.hcs.harvard.edu/~pcc/]PCC:”>http://www.hcs.harvard.edu/~pcc/)</p>
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<p>It might be helpful for her to talk with someone about relationships in general.</p>
<p>I see. The kids have a platonic relationship now, but they are waiting until they are sleeping in the faux house together to start having sex, hence the need for birth control. Right. </p>
<p>I, too, would like to sell some land to fauxmaven. Oh, and fauxmaven would also mean “an expert in falsehoods.”</p>
<p>Some degree of Naivete is apparent, due to desire to be best friends with your D???
A detachment from others can also allow for distorted understandings of what is going on socially.</p>
<p>Too much attachment between mother and daughter can also distort and preclude development.</p>
<p>I laud you for being so close and loving with your D, faux.
For trying to support her and keep the peace and love between you.</p>
<p>But please realize that you need to be the MOM and she needs to grow up. It is good that you step in to listen and advise, and love, but let her take the actions. Be there, but do not do FOR her. And do not become her world and vice versa. It is a subtle difference, this dance of parenting a young adult. The more you let her solve her own problems (after educating herself, including getting advice from you), the more confident and wise she will be, and she will able to cope with being independent and make good decisions later. Life is a journey with a lot of lessons to be learned!</p>
<p>As for relationships, I probably do not need to say this, but the MOST IMPORTANT THING our children need to learn is how to know when someone is SINCERELY TREATING THEM WELL. Sex, trust, living together, changing one’s life to be with the other- none really are healthy if the other person is not there for real for you.</p>
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<p>Might want to pay for it BEFORE boyfriend “comes”.</p>
<p>Just spit on my laptop.</p>
<p>^^ :o
I have to admit, the punctuation is distracting me too.</p>
<p>Thought the OP said way back in post #8 that the decision to leave school was deferred after a conversation between OP’s dau and DH. So these additional 150 posts of suggestions, comments, critiques, posters scolding other posters or commenting on comments unrelated to the topic, etc are perhaps all besides the point. A typical day on cc :)</p>
<p>That said, I think Midwestmom2kids post is excellent. I am also wondering why, if the OP’s daughter is having such difficulty adjusting to school and contemplating leaving, isn’t se seeing a therapist to help her work all this out.</p>
<p>I just can’t imagine a college student at Harvard asking her mother for funding for birth control.
Universities have health clinics where low cost birth control is available- why would you need to ask your parents for help with your sex life?</p>