<p>I am going next week to see the Arraignment portion with my son. He ended up getting a decent suit at Sears,at a very nice price. What should I wear?I know I should look like I am going to a serious occasion -I am an artsy type, so I will go for my more somber attire. My son says that the judge may call him and his lawyer into his chambers for a private talk . Any advice from my favorite on line friends?</p>
<p>If you have something in darker or muted tones, black, brown or navy, that would be good. Solids are going to be better if you have them. A simple skirt and sweater, dress with jacket, slacks with blouse and sweater. I would stay away from loud patterns and colors if you can. I’m sure you can find something appropriate in your closet. Just being there to support your son will be your focus. Sending warm thoughts and hugs.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t be too concerned about what to wear, Fauxmaven. No one will be judging you. Remember that there is little that you can do to affect the outcome of this. You are a good mom and will continue to be. And you will get through this and so will your son. My dad died last year and I often ear his voice in my head when I am overwhelmed or down. He used to say “this, too, shall pass.” I used to roll my eyes at him when I was young. But he was right.</p>
<p>I have a relative who was in your situation. The judge weighed the defendant’s “family support” as one factor in reduced sentencing.<br>
Wear a plain dark skirt or tailored pants and a plain top or shirt with a sweater or jacket. The Mom version of your sons Sears suit.<br>
Hugs to all of you …</p>
<p>The fashion advice that you are being given is spot on. And to you: hugs.</p>
<p>Sending good thoughts.</p>
<p>If it helps, think of us being there holding your hand.</p>
<p>No cleavage, toned down makeup (if applicable).</p>
<p>No additional advice, but hugs to you and good luck to your son. One day this will all be behind him.</p>
<p>When your son is called, make sure you and any other family members stand up so the judge can see you’re there.</p>
<p>Sending positive vibes your way, faux!</p>
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<p>Ask your attorney if this is the norm in your jurisdiction before doing this.</p>
<p>No advice but all best to you and your son!</p>
<p>Hoping for the best for your son and you.</p>
<p>I didn’t know about the standing up, so I will check this out. Today, he got 2 tickets-not wearing a seat belt and an illegal left turn! He says he will pay the fines. I guess waving to the judge wouldn’t be advised either!</p>
<p>fauxmaven,</p>
<p>do you have a friend going with you to support you? Please make sure you bring someone along with you…</p>
<p>Good idea. ^^^^^</p>
<p>Faux…hoping your husband is going with you.</p>
<p>Good luck with this. You certainly have had your fair share of frustrations recently. What I read on CC just reinforces that they will always be our children, and we will always suffer when they are suffering…</p>
<p>No, H will be at work. I plan to take my son to lunch afterwards. You know, hanging out together… this isn’t when they take him away.</p>