<p>This is the situation I am currently in: I could either attend UC Santa Barbara this fall, or I could wait and apply to Cal this application cycle. I’m not really sure what I am to do. I have a GPA around 3.55, and have 11 W’s. I really don’t want to lose SB, because with my major(CS), it is going to be impossible to get into next year. Right now I am really debating if the risk of applying to Cal is too great. I think I may have a chance at Cal because I am a member of TAP and I am willing to apply as a less selective major</p>
<p>So right now you are probably asking why I want to go to Cal so much since I am pretty much risking the third best CS program of all the UC’s. Well, this is probably going to sound really stupid, but it is to be near this one girl. You may find it hard to believe, but yes, I am that stupid. </p>
<p>If she is your gf then she will visit you at SB.
If she is not your gf and you are delaying college on the SLIM chance you’ll get into Cal to be near her to woo her… well, she’d probably think you aren’t very smart either.</p>
<p>Long distance relationships can force you to focus and get your work done so you have weekends off to spend with her.
Go to SB.</p>
<p>A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.</p>
<p>She’s not my girlfriend, but it would kill me to see her with another person. I keep on fearing that while I am gone, someone is going to come on to her, and I won’t be able to make a move. I find her really captivating, and I’m not the type of person the believes in faith. I make my own. </p>
<p>Ultimately you are going to do what you want, but I feel like you are being short sighted. </p>
<p>IF you get in to UCB, you MIGHT date this girl. That’s it. To me, it is not risking my future at a #3 CS school for the possibility of a date.</p>
<p>If you stay at SB, you will graduate in two years with an in-demand degree and you can move to SF to be close to her. If you drop out, you run the risk of not being accepted at either school.</p>
<p>@Luckie1367 Wow, you talked some sense into me. It was painful to hear it, but I needed it. It still hurts, but you are right, going to SB is better for the long run.</p>
<p>Grow a spine and stop putting this girl up on a pedestal. Choosing to go to a school because of one girl you’re not even dating is INCREDIBLY DUMB. Now, if you want to apply to Cal because there are other things that you like about the school, then sure, you’ll have to evaluate your options. But you’re literally trying to go to Cal because you can’t “stand the thought of this girl being with another guy”? Sorry, but that’s pathetic. There will be plenty of girls in UCSB that are just as good, if not better, than this chick you’re waning over. </p>
<p>Let me play devil’s advocate for you. You spend an extra year at CC, but while you’re spending that extra year at your CC, “your” girl finds another guy. What are you gonna do? What if you end up at Cal but she ends up rejecting you? Now you get to see her in person going out with her new boyfriend. I’m sure you will be thrilled. </p>
<p>@RustyShackleFurd , I am sorry if I came off as harsh. I am happy that you are starting to see the dangers of applying for UCB for one girl. You put time and effort into going to UCSB, which is an excellent school. We don’t want you to throw any of that away.</p>
<p>As a side note, have you ever spent time at UCSB while it is in session? </p>
<p>Don’t make significant life decisions because you want a chance to date some girl(or guy). To many people have done that throughout history and ended up being miserable because of it.</p>
<p>Besides, UCSB girls are probably going to be more attractive anyway. Berkeley ain’t known for having an attractive student body, you know.</p>
<p>@Cayton It wasn’t about looks. I think that we would make a good couple, and she has been in my life for a while now. I had a crush on her ever since my early teen years, now I am 20.</p>
<p>I guess infatuation can make people do dumb things. By the way, I thought I had a good chance at her. She’s really shy,and she has yet be in a relationship even though she is 23. </p>
<p>Regardless, it’s imprudent to make important decisions such as which college you’ll attend based on who else is going there, especially if it’s someone you have a crush on.</p>
<p>You’ll almost certainly regret it. It’s not worth the risk.</p>
<p>No offense but this is the kind of thinking the UCSB shooter had. Fixating on someone or something you don’t have. It’s kind of verging on creepy. If it is impossible for you to continue on at UCSB and you end up delaying to try for Berkekey to be with her, I hope you consider counseling or medication. I’m sorry, but it’s not proper thinking at all.</p>
<p>@lindyk8
Lol isn’t that a little bit of an exaggeration? If this were a movie or something everyone would think it was cute, but because we don’t know him it comes off as creepy. I think a lot of people have liked someone enough to make bad decisions. But hey that’s cool what you said about your daughter minoring in music history. I actually decided to major in English and minor in music.</p>
<p>Btw it’s kind of funny how the OP made such a strange typo in a question asking if he is stupid or not. If all I had to go on was the way he phrased the question, my answer would be yes. No offense OP. Or maybe English is a second language.</p>
<p>@music1990 yes, I agree it is a stretch. The point I was making, although I may have exaggerated it (and I apologize to OP for that), is we really don’t know ultimately who these ppl are we are talking with. Things can seem innocent when there could be an undercurrent. That’s the main flaw with social media.
But I assume the guy isn’t a whack job although he needs to think it through…</p>
<p>I did see you switched the major/minor. I think that’s a great plan. </p>
<p>I think comparing me to the Santa Barbara shooter is really unfair. That moron was a ranging sexist. I don’t share the viewpoints with him. I also think it is stupid to assume I’m like him just because this is the internet. People like him are a very rare breed. I may have an infatuation, but that does not make me an unstable sexist with range problems. </p>
<p>I guess what I am trying to say is that having deep feelings for someone does not make you a maniac in need of medical attention. To say that is just really, really dumb.</p>