I’m actually impressed that she’s willing to stay in CC to have a shot at Berkeley.
Yes, $46 a unit.
With the limited information we have it is difficult to make any suggestions, but as someone mentioned above it is a parent’s job to support our children and guide them to success and the last thing you want to do is to punish her for miscalculating number of units to transfer. On another hand it is always dangerous when a student has a fixation on one school since there’s no guarantee she will be able to transfer to UCB after the third year. I would let her take another year at cc but make sure she will apply to number of schools next year.
Academic advisers aren’t always the final arbiter of what the registrar will require to verify graduation/transfers. Agree with everyone else – let her take what she needs at the CC. If she only needs a couple courses, then perhaps she could pick up extra hours at work. She has worked really hard to get an excellent GPA and has been doing everything right. Please don’t stand in her way. This is not the hill to die upon.
I wonder if this was a real post - it wouldn’t be the first time someone tried to get a reaction from the CC crowd.
@3puppies I thought the same, actually. A smart kid getting ammo for tough conversation with mom. The advice still rings true though.
Yup, something is fishy. How could she be turned down at Berkeley when transfer admission decisions aren’t out yet? And why didn’t the adviser you spoke with know this?
But if we assume this is a hypothetical, I would agree with everyone else. Sounds like the student would have very little left to complete. Let her finish what she needs to and work the rest of the time, pay for CC and save the rest to put it toward her 4 year degree. Or, have her or pay rent and then the parent could put that money toward her 4 years degree when the time comes.
(Well, I’m the lone ranger wondering how it came to this. Don’t think we’re getting the full story. And yes, wonder if the question is genuine.)
To be fair, I don’t think the OP meant that she had heard back from Berkeley yet. The denial was for when the D was a senior in high school.
Dunno. OP said, “Last week, we went up to college to speak with an advisor to find out why she didn’t get in.” That wouldn’t be about two years ago. The missing or faulty pieces she cites are cc related, not hs.
Are you required to have 90 quarter units in HS?
Some UCs have released transfer admission decisions. Giving the OP the benefit of the doubt, maybe she just used Berkeley to protect anonymity.
My bad. I missed that part, LF.
And no, 1Dreamer, I thought she meant that that’s why she wouldn’t be accepted. No point in applying if you don’t meet the basic requirements. That’s what I thought she meant.
You are being unreasonable.
You say your daughter has perfect grades- that means she’s diligent and a hard worker.
To make her give up on her dream because she made some errors in figuring out the transfer credits is, in my opinion, a mistake.
She’s not even guatanteed in. Its not a simple slip, but compound errors over time.
Just strikes me we aren’t nearly so tolerant when it’s a hs senior with good grades and a supposed “dream,” but who messed up several steps over time.
Just saying that one has to weigh the error(s) which occurred vs the potential long-term harm to the relationship by making ultimatums. Relationships can be badly damaged by consequences that seem disproportionate to the error(s).
I’d assume the OP’s kid might apply to a few more UCs than Cal next year (they should). THAT is the path the parent should be encouraging once the credit/transfer situation is sorted out for sure. But we seem to be unanimous that the kid has a very good shot at UCs in general, and shouldn’t be punished for an administrative snafu. I have tracked credits for my less organized kid in college, partly because I didn’t want to foot the bill for any more than 8 semesters. And it isn’t easy or obvious some of the time.
Yet somehow the OP has not only got the decision (although nobody else has posted Cal xfer decisions are out) but went up to talk to Cal about the decision they had received last week
Just sayin’ …
@singlemomof1 Are you still there?
After reading the whole thread, I have the strong feeling that the poster may actually be the student, who has found out how she screwed up the required credits and is anticipating the upcoming confrontation with the mother. Although the was the post is written does sounds like it is the mother…
If that is the case, I would advise putting together a solid plan to fill in the gaps, strengthen your application, and pay for the additional CC time yourself. In other words, your parent would not be paying for the extra time. Sounds like you also need to accept that even after doing this you may not get into Cal, and thus you should accept in advance that you will be finishing your degree elsewhere in that happens. Promise your mother that this is your FINAL try and you are ready to move on with your education either way.
If it is the mother, I would suggest that you require your D to do the above.
Good luck in either case.
If you are the daughter, when you talk to your mother, admit that you made a mistake but also make sure she understands that the situation was a complex one. As people who are knowledgeable about the California state system wrote on this thread, the transfer process is not easy. Your mistake was in thinking (perhaps naively) that the transfer process would be straightforward and that you could figure it out yourself (or with only the help of a single advisor at your CC). In fact, it’s a very complicated process, and you probably should have sought other sources of expert advice (including the admissions offices of the schools you wanted to transfer to).
It also might help to say something like “In order to finish my degree at a UC – which I still very much want to do – it looks like I’m going to need a sort of gap year in which I will do a small number of additional classes at the CC. I know you weren’t counting on this, but I can make it work without having it cost you money.” And you can. You probably don’t need to take a full courseload at the CC for all of the academic quarters and summer sessions between now and the time when you would transfer. That gives you chance to work – and probably work enough to pay your CC tuition and reimburse your mother for any costs she’s incurring by having you live at home (food, the cost of maintaining an extra car, etc.). The only way I can see a real problem is if your mother had anticipated moving to a smaller apartment once you transferred, and now she can’t.
In other words, (1) be proactive (come to your mother with descriptions of both the problem and your proposed solution to it) and (2) admit the truth – that you underestimated the complexity of the transfer process and made some less-than optimal decisions as a result, and now you need to adjust your plans to compensate for this.