Because the FAFSA and CSS at schools that use a baseline that is the same for all. But the CSS using privates then can adjust.
Most will count stocks and bonds but many will count home equity. Maybe a family lives paycheck to paycheck but has a home worth a million $ with no mortgage. Most schools will want you to monetize that home and use the $$ to pay for school - meaning sell the home to raise $$.
The other thing is - every family is different. Two may make $175k. One has a mortgage and can write off $40k in interest and property tax. Another lives in an apartment and has no write off. He will pay more in taxes. Is it fair that person who has a mortgage gets a break ? Others can write off medical bills or business expenses to lower a tax burden.
So to look after taxes would be unfair because people make choices that impact their taxes paid and other things in life. So that would be unfair to include although some colleges do exclude home equity.
The other thing is - if they looked after tax, they’d just adjust their aid tables downward.
Through high school, education is a given by law.
College, on the other hand is not. It’s a consumable that has a cost and not everyone, sadly, can consume it or all parts of it - like living at school.
Now some may say - my family seems as if they have money but it’s not liquid. In other words, they can’t turn the asset into funds overnight. But that is not the college’s concern nor should it be.
Remember, colleges are businesses. They need to bring in more $$ than they are spending. Many today don’t so they are both raiding their endowments plus cutting programs.
There is a path for you but you mentioned your parents not wanting to participate. Whether they can truly help or not, at their income most every college will assume they can and significantly. They will see their lack of contribution as a choice vs they can’t.
So I like what you said - live with a friend. But maybe it’s an RA (resident assistant in later years for cheap rent but those are hard to get and can’t be counted on in advance). Maybe it’s applying for a few full rides at less selective schools like E Carolina or UNCC or Alabama A&M and perhaps others know some more.
I actually looked at Starbucks and Target because if you work there, you can get your degree paid for on line. They have hundreds of offerings but sadly music doesn’t appear to be one which makes sense.
As others said - try - but that going to a CC near where you have a place to stay for free might be the sure thing you need to have as a just in case.
Sorry - these are grown up problems. But kids, as they become grown ups, start with a harsh lesson very early.
The earlier you start working - like now - to make $12 or $15 an hour - it likely won’t make a huge difference but every bit helps.