Am I wrong or is she being irrational?

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<p>If everything is as you say, OP, I do think she is being somewhat unreasonable. Just do what you can to keep her happy. And make sure you text her to let her know if your schedule changes. I’ve had issues with my (now adult) D, who adds unplanned activities to her schedule, and then is gone for 5 or 6 hours and won’t answer a text. She has done this repeatedly. It seems passive aggressive to me. I am paying for the phone. I am only concerned about her safety and want to know when she is getting home. And she always makes the same excuse, “Oh, my phone was dead/off. I didn’t notice that you called/texted.” I am not telling her she can’t do something/go somewhere or even what time to be home. I just want to know that she is safe. Then she tells me, “You worry too much. . .” Can’t help that. I’m a mom and I read/watch the news.</p>

<p>I definitely think that a parent’s own experience will be projected onto his/her teenager. H and I disagree on how much freedom/supervision our 18 S needs. I trust S, think he has good judgment and wouldn’t get into any trouble, so tend to allow more freedom/ask fewer questions. I was a fairly innocent teenager and never got into trouble. H is very suspicious of what S might be up to. H doesn’t picture teenagers “being good”–he always thinks they MUST be sneaking around, breaking rules, up to something (because HE was.)</p>

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<p>Baby…,
Kuddos to you for “I’ve decided that I’m just going to let it go, I’ll try my best not to antagonize her and try to remain on a positive note.” Very mature decision. This type of thinking will help you personally in your future in many instances. I wish more young people have the same attitude!</p>

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<p>^ Agreed! Many young adults head to the parents forum to vent when they really have their minds made up and are simply looking for people to agree with them. It’s refreshing when people step back, reevaluate, and decide perhaps they could try another way. It’s a mature approach many adults never take, so cheers to you Baby! Looking at a situation from someone’s else’s POV is not easy to do. It will serve you well in understanding others motivations, and doesn’t always mean altering your own approach.</p>