A friend in NC just posted this to her Facebook page - I have never seen an obituary that really just “goes there” like this one does. I wonder who wrote/submitted it - one of her children?
http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/newsobserver/obituary.aspx?n=wilma-black&pid=177168544
Wow, sounds like some family drama there. Would not have publicized that. 
Too negative an attitude for me.
The link no longer functions. Guess the thing was so awful it killed its own link
I think it’s splendid. I don’t really see it as a tragedy inasmuch as many people having lived 94 years have seen their share of difficulties in life.
The part that bothered me was what seemed like a “dig” from one family member to another, pertaining to the care-giving of mom.
I wonder if this was written by her perhaps in collaboration with a child or child in law’s help. Dave’s (ex?) spouse seems like a good candidate. (Assuming he has/had one because of the mention of mistress.)
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I agree that it was directed toward one family member. Just not the time or place to air such grievances, although I admire the author’s spunk.
Full Text of Obit:
That’s spiteful and inappropriate.
Why didn’t the brat that wrote the obit take Voliva into her home and care for her?
I am wondering if the author was also blowing the whistle on Dave’s affair? Doesn’t a mistress imply that he is married? Although how could he then have taken a trip on Xmas day without his wife? Separated maybe? Doesn’t celebrate that holiday? Although Obit implies a Christian family.
Who was that written by, her mother-in-law?
Honestly, I’m surprised a newspaper would publish that.
I’m imagining Dave, in the grave conversation with the doctor who has been overseeing her care.“Dave, I’m so sorry. We have to face the fact that your mother is not going to recover from this. We could intubate, but you know how awful that was for her the last time. We don’t think she’d want to live out her last few days that way.”
Dave talks to the nurse: “Dave, I’ve seen this situation too many times-- the family insisting on treatment when treatment is futile. I wouldn’t want that done on me. She wouldn’t want it.” Dave sorrowfully consents to comfort care only.
And then his jerk of a sibling, who wasn’t there, who’s never there, starts secondguessing.
I have seen some obituaries that the person themselves wrote, that talked about hard truths of their life, but this one reads like someone out to spite others, and it is pretty pathetic.
It’s terribly sad.
@albert69, I think you have hold of the wrong end of the stick. The mother-in-law wpould have been the parent of the alcoholic, cheating, abusive husband. Not to mention she’d probably be about 120 by now.
@VaBluebird , it was a paid death notice, not an obituary. An obituary is written by reporters, about a famous (or infamous) person who has died. A death notice is what most of us get, paid for by our families. Most papers have restrictions on paid ads and death notices (no foul language, for example) but someone was obviously asleep on the job for this one!
The death notice I put in the paper for my father was very respectful, but it wasn’t entirely truthful.One of my brothers was furious with me for how nice I made my dad sound, but I still have no regrets. I just don’t think it’s appropriate to air family pain and suffering in the paper for all to see.
Some people just have that kind of odd sense of humor. My H has an aunt and cousins who I could envision writing something similar. Just odd takes on life, odd observations, very dry humor.