<p>at Hofstra University on LI. 18 y/o girl gang raped in dorm bathroom by another student and three of his friends he signed into dorms. They stole her phone at party then lured her to them under guise of getting it back. Between this & the Yale murder it makes one afraid to let your kids out of the house let alone go to college. So sad & scary.</p>
<p>Absolutely horrible!</p>
<p>Scary. It is time to get out there and speak to your daughters about their responsiblity for their safety. (Not excusing this at ALL). No red cups, no going to parties alone, no going to another dorm to visit a guy you dont’ know alone, call campus escort service when needed, etc.</p>
<p>Since the Yale affair, I have asked my D. to send me a quick text message when she settles in for the night in her dorm room. I have yet to receive one. So, I am now forced to play my “I don’t care you over 19, as long as I pay for your education…” card. They don’t see danger until they are right in the middle of it.</p>
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<p>I don’t understand this one.</p>
<p>^ I think that means don’t accept a drink at a party that you didn’t prepare yourself, for fear that it might be spiked with something unpleasant.</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=red+cup[/url]”>Urban Dictionary: Red Cups;
<p>I think it means to have a bottle of something as opposed to a cup, where it is much easier to put drugs in.</p>
<p>Right, red cup means you are drinking from an open cup and likely didn’t prepare the drink yourself. Could be beer from the tap, punch, etc. Also even when drinking from a bottle it should never be set down and then picked back up.</p>
<p>I wonder how many students would NOT drink the punch, or the beer from a tap? </p>
<p>I am willing to bet that a lot won’t put down a drink and then pick it back up though.</p>
<p>Thanks. I thought it might have meant a non-clear cup. A clear cup wouldn’t prevent you from seeing an additive, anyway, would it?</p>
<p>Female teens nowaday are way too trusting. My D was asked to drive one of her male friend (from HS), who attend a college in town, and 3 of his college friends. When I refused due to the fact that she did not know these 3 guys, she replied they were her HS friend’s friends. To which I replied: “Friends as having meet them for the first time in his life only 4 days ago?” She got defensive with me. See what I mean, though, she trusted the judgement of someone else, and used the term “friend” extremely loosely. I never hear teen used the term “acquaintance”, only “friends”, or “not friends”. This is no wonder when one looks at teens’s facebook, everyone has over 265 friends. It is very scary!</p>
<p>Particularly horrifying about the Hofstra incident is that it occurred Sunday night but students didn’t find out about it until Tuesday. Not sure what was going on with the police/administration there.</p>
<p>chintzy - I was wondering about that. I searched the school web site, and there is no mention of it, as in an alert. I thought they had to publish this info due to new federal law</p>
<p>All I know for certain is that one of D’s friends lives in the high rise dorm where the incident took place and even she didn’t hear about it until Tuesday. At that point news crews were swarming outside her dorm. She said they were having a mandatory safety meeting last night. I’m just heartsick.</p>
<p>I am sorry! I can imagine how you feel.</p>
<p>Apparently the school did post a notice on their internal web site on Monday, but decided not to do an e-mail/text alert because the suspects were apprehended and there was no imminent danger.</p>
<p>Perhaps it is better that way. My D goes to a large public university, and everytime there is a sexual assault (twice since the beginning of the year), I receive an e-mail, and when I go the the school web site for details, there is a big flashy alert on the front page. Of course, no name is released. So, I don’t know about the other parents, but me, I frantically try to reach my D. Very stressful.</p>
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<p>That is a good thing, but this instance one can have a thousand meetings. If a student is bent on being violent and invites into a dorm friends who are equally violent, I doubt this could have been prevented. The victim apparently was in a bathroom in a dorm when attacked.</p>
<p>My D is a junior at Hofstra and yes, this is very upsetting. At this point, we are trying to understand that the reason the administration did not release any information until late the next day was that one suspect was still at large (and to my knowledge, still is). They did alert the students via the campus notification system of the attack, and the parents have received several email alerts regarding the ongoing investigation. And, to top this off, yesterday there was a seperate event (an armed robbery) on the campus. The suspect that was arrested in that case was not a Hofstra student. </p>
<p>As evidenced by the tragic event this week at Yale - violent crimes happen on campuses everywhere. What we have tried to impress upon our daughter is the need to always be aware and alert to all potentially dangerous situations at all times. As I discussed with her last night, this poor girl suffered a horrible trauma because of her cell phone. As I told DD - a cell phone, no matter how $$ it is, is worth your personal safety. I only can hope that this young girl will be able to recover from this horrible event and resume some sort of “normal” life once again. It is a parent’s worse nightmare…</p>
<p>If one was still at large, they had an obligation to inform the student, because there was still a danger. There is a law on that.</p>