<p>MoWC: I think that’s the way it used to be. I’m in the network for my high school, university and city. But I have a gmail address. My nephew lists two different high schools because he switched half way through. My son lists two universities: undergrad and grad school. I’ve seen friends list the city they group up in and the one they currently live in. I don’t see any benefit to being in a network except it lets people search by that school or city. On the other hand, I can search any school and year I want without being in that network.</p>
<p>I think you can list the schools, but only be in the network for 1 (or maybe 2). I could be wrong.</p>
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I don’t know what happened with the person you know, but no, the person is not notified if you unfriend them. Experiment with it using someone you know well (warn them in advance!). Unfriend them, and ask them if they got a notification. They won’t, and you’ll feel better about it. Then you can friend them again! :)</p>
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They only do that if the other person clicks on “find friends” or something like that and then checks yes for permission to access that person’s address book. Most of my friend suggestions come because someone suggested them for me. For instance, a h.s. friend will join and friend a former classmate. The classmate goes through her friend list, checking everyone who also attended that h.s. so that they will all get suggestions to friend the new person.</p>
<p>I just checked. You can only be in one regional network at a time (city etc) and you can only change it once every 60 days. So you don’t get to switch your city so you can stalk people in another city who allow access to anyone in that network! Many of the school networks do require a school email address (or alum) but I’m not sure how many you can be in.
You set a primary network, which can be a region or a school.</p>
<p>SO, can you set a network for your childhood town, then your current town, then every couple of months the towns in between so you can actually find friends from the old days? I am more curious about friends from the area with whom I did not attend school.</p>
<p>I don’t think you have to be in the network to find friends from it. Search for a name and you’ll see people pop up from all over the place. The easier way to find people is to look at the friends list of someone who they may be friends with. That’s how I find my cousins. Or maybe you just can’t find them because their settings won’t let people search for them. There’s not much you can do to find them except send them an email and ask them to friend you.</p>
<p>I conveniently left town right after I offended my neighbor and I came back today to find that he sent an e-mail saying, “Please tell me her silly ‘hate’ thing didn’t cause you to unfriend me on facebook.” Notice he said “me” and not ‘us’. </p>
<p>I guess it wasn’t awkward enough already! I was typing out a response that I like them both very much but that I purposely kept my number of friends very small and very specific–I picked only the people that I know are not offended by my ■■■■■-like manners and sense of humor. But I can see it coming a mile away. He’s going to respond with something about we can still be fb friends even if his wife doesn’t concur. </p>
<p>Perhaps she is right to be so territorial. </p>
<p>Ugh!!!</p>
<p>Oh - awkward!!!</p>
<p>Perhaps instead of saying you pick only people that aren’t offended by your humor, you could say you have decided to limit it to friends and family that are geographically distant as a way to keep in touch. </p>
<p>Then hope he moves and becomes one of them!</p>
<p>I haven’t had any problems with fb, and have really enjoyed finding old highschool and college friends, BUT, a dear friend of mine has been having some issues!! </p>
<p>Some guy she went to hs with "friend"ed her and then started political convos with her. She is fairly conservative, but not some crazy right winger or anything. Anyway, the guy starts saying snarky things to her about her “Bush Love” and such things, and she laughs them off, but then, he starts saying some really ugly things to her, and then posting things on mutual friends’ sites about how she believes guns should be legal and that must mean that she believes in murder, and how she is a baby killer because of Bush’s war in Iraq, I mean some REALLY crazy stuff ( I can attest to it, she showed me).</p>
<p>My advice to her was to “de-friend” him and just let it go, which she did.</p>
<p>So, then we are at a party last week, and we run into another woman who went to hs with her, and GUESS WHAT? He’s stalking her on fb now, doing the same type stuff.</p>
<p>There are just some really crazy nutjobs out there, and unfortunately fb is one of the ways to get involved with them. I immediately changed all my settings to private, and I hope that I don’t come across any crazies!!</p>
<p>I would really hesitate to friend some random dude I went to high school with. I keep some of my profile info open so dear people I’ve lost track of can find me. But it has drawn in some loonies so I’m considering making everything private. I don’t accept these loonies but it still creeps me out to get friend requests or notes from them! Ewwww…a real down side to facebook IMO.</p>
<p>"Some guy she went to hs with “friend"ed her and then started political convos with her. She is fairly conservative, but not some crazy right winger or anything. Anyway, the guy starts saying snarky things to her about her “Bush Love” and such things, and she laughs them off, but then, he starts saying some really ugly things to her, and then posting things on mutual friends’ sites about how she believes guns should be legal and that must mean that she believes in murder, and how she is a baby killer because of Bush’s war in Iraq, I mean some REALLY crazy stuff ( I can attest to it, she showed me).”</p>
<p>She also needs to block him, which would inform FB that he’s violating their terms of service and this may cause FB to kick him off of their service.</p>
<p>Good idea, swimcat, but if he looked at my friends earlier then he’d know that’s not true. </p>
<p>I’ve been working on writing an e-mail with exactly the right tone. I want it to sound apologetic and gracious but also be benign enough that if he shares it with his wife she won’t come over and stab me in my bed. I don’t want this to turn into him being annoyed with her because she cost him his fb friendship with me, but I also clearly can’t just be friends with him. She seems a little nutty, so I might come home and find she boiled my pet rabbit. Actually our rabbit died a couple of years ago. She might try to boil our dog, but she’s a 90 pound black lab so she’d need a really big pot. </p>
<p>His e-mail said,“I will miss your sense of humor!” Hmmm. Then why didn’t he marry a woman with one of her own?</p>
<p>I just joined FB and have just had an experience similar to the one in post #110…except that I friended HIM. Hey, way back in high school, he was a normal person. Or at least I thought he was. And the first FB exchanges I had with him were okay…and then…they turned unpleasant. </p>
<p>He lives a long way away–and I’m really glad of that. </p>
<p>Quite seriously, if he had been visiting the city where I live and called me to get together, I would have accepted without hesitation. It’s one thing when the skeezy guy in your high school class contacts you. It’s another thing when you contact someone whom you knew and LIKED in the past–and things get really weird very quickly. </p>
<p>It makes me a lot more hesitant about contacting friends from the past. Who knows what has happened to them since high school or college?</p>
<p>^^^^Yes, or you friend a neighbor that turns out to be nuts! :)</p>
<p>I just un-friended a kid (my kids’ age) who I like but he is just spending too much energy in ultra-right-wing rants. Seriously, it crossed my mind that I should NOT unfriend him so I could keep an eye on him. Serious tinfoil hat stuff going on.</p>
<p>Actually I didn’t un-friend him, I did the thing where you can hide someone’s posts.</p>
<p>^^^Ah, perhaps I should’ve done that as well to avoid this awkwardness with the neighbors. I didn’t know you could do that.</p>
<p>If you mouse over to the right of a post, you’ll see the word “hide”–it hides all posts from that person until you change it back. The “old” FB had an option of “see fewer posts” from a person, which was a nice compromise, I thought, esp. when some people seemed to take (and share) every quiz there was. 
Oh well.</p>
<p>If you are uncomfortable being on FB with your neighbor, you should not feel you have to be friends. So sorry to hear it has become such a big deal!</p>
<p>Someone just popped up to friend me, and I’m not sure who she is. She looks very familiar, though. Guess I’ll ponder for awhile. Maybe it will come to me who she is, LOL.</p>
<p>I almost never use the site anymore. The whole thing is so childish and I got tired of people sending me like 10 to 20 requests a week to take their quiz or adopt an Internet pet or play a game with them. I have gotten so tired of having to reject that many application requests in a week. A week! The whole website was so much better before they starting adding all that nonsense and letting anybody with an email account sign up. I can’t believe the amount of time some people spend on that site when they could be doing something more productive.</p>