<p>They want me to go to UT Arlington since it’s in my city but obviously I’m going to UT Austin.
That being said, my parents tell me I’m stupid every single day because only idiots go away for college and how I won’t get a job and how I’m going to get pregnant and drop out. They have no faith in me. I’ve always been smart and independent and they think I’m dumb for not going to ut Arlington. They say I should be more like older sister who went to UTA. They doubt me so much and their negativity is getting to me. All they do is try to make me feel bad. And when they’re not yelling at me, my mom just cries and says how I’m an evil heartless daughter for leaving her and how I’m the worst daughter ever.
I can’t take it anymore
I’m moving out late August for college and I want to be on good terms with them, I hate this.
Sorry this is long but I want to vent I’m just so frustrated; anyone go through something similar?</p>
<p>I’m not going through this, but I have some words of wisdom on the subject. Your parents aren’t being fair. We always expect our parents to be these ever enduring capital-A-Adults, but sometimes they’re irrational and sometimes they’re scared and sometimes they don’t express it in the right way. I know you love your parents, but calling you stupid is NOT okay and making you feel bad about your decision to go to a still in state college is wrong. Try having a mature discussion with them where you may have to be the adult in the situation and let them know how this is making you feel because if the lines of communication don’t get better, they will certainly get worse.</p>
<p>You’ll be on your own in a month. Don’t let them bring you down, you’re almost with us here in Austin having the time of our lives, making friends, studying, working internships, etc. Austin is a great city! Just out of curiosity what is your major? I am asking in terms of internships you could do here.</p>
<p>Thank you so much for your words. They mean a lot! I will definitely try to have a better conversation with them. </p>
<p>And I am actually undergraduates studies but looking to transfer to mccombs</p>
<p>My mom would always yell and scream at me too and tell me I was going to get pregnant.</p>
<p>Which is weird cuz I’m a guy.</p>
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<p>I am sorry for your situation.</p>
<p>And being a parent I am just trying to understand how far you can really show your independence if this “war” continues.</p>
<p>Who is paying for your education?
And who filed FAFSA this year?</p>
<p>And I just found this
<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/university-texas-austin/1306786-financial-aid-notification-2.html#post15834701[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/university-texas-austin/1306786-financial-aid-notification-2.html#post15834701</a></p>
<p>You said in this post that you cannot afford UT Austin.
There are only 3 majors I know about that can pay tuition bills: engineering, geosciences and CS. You are UGS.</p>
<p>I think your Mom is upset about you leaving town. She is having a hard time cutting the apron strings. Maybe if you can get her to acknowledge this and talk about it, she might calm down.</p>
<p>UT is a much better school that UTA.</p>
<p>Yeah that was before I got my financial aid notification. I finally received my financial aid in June and it’s enough to pay for everything so I’m not worried about that anymore because I got a lot of grant aid. </p>
<p>And yeah I think my mom just is having a hard time dealing with it.</p>
<p>As an adult living in a very provincial area (Rio Grande Valley) I encounter your situation over & over with student of mine (I teach music). My advice to you is GO to UT if you can afford it. I’m not going to say anything bad about your parents, but you seem like you are conflicted about the situation. I would say go live YOUR life, but honor your parents. I would say the best way to honor them is to prove them wrong. You need to spread your wings. I think if you succeed they WILL be proud of you no matter what they might be saying at the moment. I have known students who have passes opportunites for UT & most recently Rice because they parents didn’t want them leaving the area. Just my opinion, but I think it’s very selfish for a parent to want to destroy their childs self esteem. Good luck, & I truly hope you do make the move to Austin/UT.
Another thing, it might NOT be possible for you to leave on good terms at this juncture. What I mean is you might leave on good terms but not with your mother’s blessing. Whatever the case, honor her & respect her but GO.</p>
<p>@franko5150 thank you very much. I understand exactly what you’re saying. I appreciate it so much!</p>
<p>Yep! There have been an abundance of arguments over the financial aspect. The cost of tuition at UT Austin is pricier than other public universities, and the cost of apartments near campus are pricey too. I don’t qualify for financial aid, so all the more reason to work hard on those scholarship essays! Sorry to hear about your situation. I would suggest doing what’s best for you, and it sounds like that’s what you’re doing. A good fallback response for people you care about who are currently going through a rut is to be patient and supportive of them. Good luck with everything!</p>