<p>Daughter, 15, has a new friend, 17, who lives about 1.5 hours away by car. I haven’t met the friend. Her family life sounds less than ideal, but this is hearsay. Yesterday, the friend came to our town to visit, via Greyhound bus. The mother was not aware, nor did she ask where and how the child was planning to spend her day. My daughter says I’m “weird” to want to know where my kids are “every minute” and that her friend’s mom is more the norm. How convenient. </p>
<p>My daughter wants to take Greyhound for a day trip to her friend’s city. I’ve told her I don’t feel it is safe. Her solution to that is Fine then, you should be willing to drive me there every other weekend. </p>
<p>My daughter to this point always is where she says she’ll be. She does well in school and doesn’t use drugs, etc. She is also surly and awfully entitled. She has a high percentage of friends with seemingly irresponsible parents. I’m not sure where on the range of doormat and overbearing I sit. </p>
<p>Do you meet all of your kids’ friends? Am I supposed to try and stop someone else’s kid from doing something I wouldn’t want my kid to do (realizing we’re not talking about Russian roulette or experimenting with heroin here)?</p>
<p>Am I responsible for trying to track down the mother’s phone number and ask if she knows that her kid has traveled here and whether that is okay with her?</p>
<p>Is it okay for a 15 year old kid to take a Greyhound bus to a somewhat rough city?</p>
<p>Should I instead be an accommodating chaffeur to her long distance social life? </p>
<p>Boarding school sounds really attractive.</p>