argh. You need to stop stewing. Seriously. Trying to read tea leaves is a waste of time and energy.
Fact 1: No matter where you apply from, your chances at a “T30” (whatever you consider that to be) are minuscule, because you are an international applicant.
Fact 2: The college counselor at your BS will have the best possible guidance on your what your options are likely to be and how colleges will view your story.
and fwiw, a 3.75 GPA from Exeter is not the same as a 3.75 from my local public HS. AdComms consider your marks relative to your cohort & school.