@Iris Shadow ,
I’m not unsympathetic. As I said, my own daughter has auditory processing issues. She does horribly on any standardized test involving reading, (translation: ALL of them) though she works her tush off in class and gets good grades. . And over the past 35 years I’ve taught any number of kids who don’t perform well on standardized tests-- or on any tests for that matter.
I simply thought it was in her best interests to opt IN. And I’m not sure that opting out is all that productive, since the pressures will still be on the kids in the weeks and months leading up to the tests. And in places like NY, where teacher evaluations are tied into those test results, I can see how frustrating it is for those teachers when kids opt out, thereby having a direct result on whether or not those teachers will be rehired next year.
As to your friends who “turn test scores into measure of self worth”-- that’s NOT about the test. That’s about the friends. Anyone who defines their self worth by a number on a page is in for a rough time in high school and college and the working world-- all of those places involve constant evaluations, frequently broken down to numbers on pages. Likewise, the “bias towards the affluent with money for counselors and test prep” is a personal decision-- that’s not about the test, but rather about the choice.
At the end of the day, a test is simply a test. It doesn’t define you as a person, or your intelligence, or what kind of a person you are. It tells how you did on particular questions on particular topics on a particular day, and that’s all. They have no intrinsic value beyond the statistics they provide. Making them into something more than that is a separate, frequently more personal issue.
(And, yes, that’s what I tell my students about my own classroom tests as well. They’re important, but they’re not a measure of your worth.)
The OP questioned whether or not it was “legal” for teachers to have access to the names of the kids who have opted out. While I’m no expert in educational law, in my opinion, it’s legal. If I’m going to write a letter of recommendation for a kid, I need to have access to his educational records. And that includes his standardized test history.
Like most other decisions you make as an adult, it’s a double edged sword. For my own daughter, I felt it could potentially be a bad choice. So I opted her in.