<p>College is a time when people usually get more serious in their relationships, but do you know anyone who you could never really picture in a relationship, or it would be weird to picture them in one?
I’m asking because my sister seems like this. She’s really confident and secure with herself, so I could never see her being clingy and ‘in need of man’. She says that it’s important to be single, and it’s important to dedicate time to yourself and not have someone who will possibly be constantly calling and checking up on you. She hates relationships like that.
She is popular, pretty, funny, fun, and has a good, genuine group of friends.
It’s just strange for me to picture her in a relationship. Is this weird?<br>
And no, she isn’t gay.
I think it may be that I don’t think any guy would be good enough for her.</p>
<p>Please, I’ve been thinking about this and I would really like to hear your opinions.</p>
<p>I don’t know, I honestly think that you can picture anyone in a relationship. It just varies for each person. For example, I’m great friends with my next-door neighbor in my dorm, and many people think that he’s not the relationship type, because he’s mostly on the computer throughout the day and barely talks to the girls on our floor, even though he’s a nice guy. However, he’s already had two girlfriends before, while I’ve had none, lol.</p>
<p>To be honest though, I think about this a lot, and I’m not sure if I can even picture myself in a relationship that well. I’ve always been a guy that girls have liked as a person, but not in a relationship way. Heck, I don’t even think a girl has ever had a crush on me before, so I don’t know. I’m only a freshman, but I see all these happy couples around campus and at the football games and I wish I could have that at some point in the future.</p>
<p>I couldn’t picture my roommate in a relationship- no one could. She has a boyfriend now, but it’s still not like they’re in a relationship. I can’t really explain it. </p>
<p>I think your sister has a jaded view of what relationships are or could be. Yes, some are like that, but not all of them. When you and your SO are very comfortable with themselves, having that SO in your life is just a wonderful bonus. No matter how independent you are, the majority of people often need someone to lean on for one reason or another. A boyfriend/girlfriend is a great resource in that regard. What’s most important is that she’s happy :). </p>
<p>But no, it’s not weird. There are just some people that seem too independent to have a SO. When she finally gets a boyfriend though, and if it’s a good relationship, it’ll seem weird for her to be single.</p>
<p>Not every guy is clingy and will call all of the time. She would need to find someone as independent and secure as she is to find some compatibility in a relationship. </p>
<p>I was the ridiculously quiet girl in high school that had few friends, socially awkward…and I’ve had several decent relationships. It’s funny how you end up meeting people when you don’t expect it. </p>
<p>thankyou4flying - many, many people have crushes that they never make obvious, so you don’t know that no one’s liked you as more than a friend. There’s a guy I work with who feels about the same as you, but I actually like him, lol. But I keep things too professional at work for him to know. I guess I’m waiting for either me or him to find a different job before making anything obvious, just in case it wouldn’t work out.</p>
<p>^^ Nova!! I am that girl now in high school!!! Lol, so there is hope for a relationship in college!? Yay, I was afraid I’d be an old spinster before I got another boyfriend (hopefully a good one) : )</p>
<p>What about people who act too weird for me to ever picture in a relationship…
I was sitting among a small group, just chatting. One of the guys nonchalantly stuck his hand down his pants and started rubbing/scratching, I didn’t look long enough or care to know, less than two feet away from two girls.
His looks and body mass wouldn’t help either.</p>
<p>I know tons of people that are impossible to imagine in a relationship, but it’s usually because they’re socially incapable not because they aren’t clingy.</p>
<p>there are three types of people who don’t seem fit to be in a relationship. Some are a combination of these (with exception of 1 and 3)</p>
<ol>
<li><p>no swag</p></li>
<li><p>no time</p></li>
<li><p>no commitment (a c*cksman)</p></li>
</ol>
<p>I knew a guy who’s number 3, but he’s in a long distance relationship, and he cheats on her about once a week. . . I feel really bad for that girl. And that guy has a lovable character, but he’s just such an a**hole</p>
<p>Yes. Me. I’m just awkward around guys–I never had guy friends growing up, I don’t have brothers, and I don’t get along well with my male cousins (plus, except for one, they’re all way older than me and experiencing a different part of life than I am, such as looking to settle down). So I didn’t get experience interacting with guys on a casual level in my childhood.</p>
<p>College is a time when people get more serious about relationships, eh? I wish. Around here college is a time when a relationship starts with sex and ends on the very same night. It’s ****.</p>
<p>Meh, I think in the early years of college people are more about hooking up and random stuff, and then they progressively get more into long-term relationships.</p>
<p>I’d actually find it hard to see myself in a relationship at the current time, but that’s a personal choice. I hate commitment and if the right person were to come along I think it would be very difficult for me to reconcile that.</p>
<p>I’m probably one of those people haha. I can’t even imagine myself in a relationship, even though I’ve had thoughts and desires to have one. I still think about it, but whatever happens, happens. At this rate though, I don’t see it happening anytime soon :\ I thought college would open new doors and I’d be more open, but I’m still the same and I haven’t changed. <em>sigh</em></p>