I am a sophomore and I’m starting to get bored of my university. Everytime I wake up it’s like I know to expect the same routine. I don’t even get excited about my classes anymore. I’m starting to get tiredness f being here. I’m in a college town in central Illinois surrounded by cornfields. I go to Illinois State University. It’s a progressive college town but it seem like I’m surround s by the same type of people who are from various towns in Illinois. It’s been hard for me to make friends, everyone wants to drink and party or so drugs and because I don’t do those types of things, they don’t want to hang out with me. I don’t know if I’m tired of being in this college town or the university is not for me like I thought. The professor are good but I’m just tired of the school. I feel like I need to be somewhere different. I’ve tried joining various things but I still feel the same. I’ve been thinking about maybe transferring to a university in a big city or just transferring to another university Why do I feel this way? Does this mean I need to transfer it just try harder to like this university and get more involved.
@lisataylor14 Have you tried volunteering, an animal shelter? Big brothers, big sisters? Working at a natural food coop? Getting a job? Learning a new skill or trying a new hobby? Yoga, bellydancing, martial arts? Being a docent at a museum? Starting study groups? Starting a book club? What have you done?
@gearmom I joined the school newspaper. Joined a few clubs like meditation, a club for public relations majors like myself, and 4 other clubs on campus. I also have a on campus job at our campuses Burger King which I hate but it’s hard are getting a job in this town. I’ve been trying to get a better job for months. Also I am in 3 study groups. I’ve tried making friends but they just want to party and drink and I’m the type of person who doesn’t enjoy that
@lisataylor14 We get so many kids on here with the same profile. Wanting to have fun without drinking and drugs. Can you start a wellness club? There have to be other kids at your school who just aren’t connecting.
@gearmom you’re right maybe I just need to keep trying to find myself here. I feel different and feel like an outsider surrounded by shallow college students. I actually connect better and have better conversations with grad students and my professor more than my fellow college students. I’ve just been feeling lost here and like I don’t fit in even though there are 20 thousand students here. I’ve never felt this way before and not having friends suck
@lisataylor14 With 20,000 kids, you should have many opportunities. You need to keep looking and trying other clubs and opportunities.
@gearmom ok definitely I will keep trying
@lisataylor14 You are not alone. There are definitely other kids like you on campus. Keep your chin up.
There seems to be a bit of a sophomore slump going on. This is normal. All the newness of college has kind of worn off and the realities of the hard work of college and everything else about the process of transitioning to adulthood is there. Try to keep your focus on the positives. If the social scene isn’t working great for you, focus on something else, your studies, other activities that you do enjoy and keep moving forward. College is only 4 years, you are almost halfway there. You can do this.
I am pretty sure if you transfered it would be the same thing…if you don’t get involved, it seems like everyone is just interested in partying. But keep trying to find students who are interested in what you are…there are many non-partyers out there.