Guess I’m not one of the cool kids.
I’m clueless.
@bjkmom, see post #59.
Maybe – just a suggestion – put the link in the first post so people don’t think everyone here is going crazy, lol.
Me too.
I honestly don’t know a single woman that doesn’t have a story.
My mom told me early and often of her experiences. Not in explicit detail, but what happened and how often it happened.
My dad taught me from a young age how to physically defend myself.
These are some of my earliest memories. I know they will be my child(ren)'s earliest memories. I hope beyond hope it won’t be their child(ren)'s.
I have no idea if the shady looking dude that approached me from behind and tapped me on the shoulder (as I was walking through a deserted area of a large park) was going after me or after my purse, or both, but he got a generous whack on the head with said purse (very heavy). I took no chances to inquire about his intent and ran. So that is my incident.
I was lucky that I was not sexually harassed at work or in school. Really lucky. Very lucky.
This thread has me thinking about my daughters. I know one has a “me too” story. The other one has not said so if she does, but I haven’t asked, either. 
^^^
One of my d’s posted and then the post disappeared. ( or was hidden from us) I don’t know if if I should ask about it. My gut tells me that her removing the post from my viewing means she doesn’t want to discuss.
Me, too. Sigh…
And yes, I’m thinking of my D as well as she just started her professional life a couple of months ago. Wondering if she’ll have to face this…
@SyrAlum, what gave me the courage to post on this thread was that I saw that my daughter had courageously posted it on FB last night. She is a Dr. In residency, with past employment in restaurants, internships, etc. I am glad for this topic to come up, and I know my D will tell me when we talk. Then I will have to go kill him.
Just kidding, sort of…
@Sally22 - can you possibly tell her you were on CC and responded to the post, and open the conversation with something like ‘some told their story, some simply responded “me too”’ - and let the conversation grow organically from there? Maybe she’ll feel a sense of safety if you (without judgement) let her know just how many of us are “me too” responders.
Personally I feel that every single one of us should have this conversation with our (adult or otherwise) children. I’ll come back & let you know how mine went.
Hugs to all.
Me, too. More than once and with more than one perpetrator.
Me too-- groped at a public library when I was a teenager.
My daughter put up “Me too” and then posted this story (publicly, and I asked her about this, so I’m not violating her privacy) :
" I was just finishing up with our last set at a local bar with a band and a very sweet couple asked to buy me a drink, so I accepted.
We were just sitting at the bar chatting about music and College when this guy(whom I just met that night because someone in the band knew him) stood next to me and began to tell me the following: " I’m going to drug your drink and wait for you to get too drunk to get to your car. Then I’m going to have sex with you and leave you in a dumpster in a dark alley and wait for you to wake up. When you wake up, I’m going to tell you thanks, I had fun, and you were good."
She prefaced this with “Just one of many encounters with a predator”.
So many of her fellow musicians have similar stories, and some of them want to get together and “out” the creeps. Or at least warn each other about them.
So there is some benefit to doing this, at least in my view.
The club no one wants to be in.
Me too.
@fractalmstr , the point is to illustrate how prevalent it was and still is. Understanding that we are not alone, and understanding the vast scope of the issue are important.
What if you’re not a part of it? I think it would be interesting to see why. Career choice? Personality? Luck? Are stronger-willed women less likely to be taken advantage of?
It isn’t just about professional life or adulthood. I had two incidents with family members before the age of 15. And trust me, I’m strong willed (just told this week at work that I am “too assertive”, in fact). But that is a whole different thread
My first was as a preteen. He was the head of my softball league.
I was sexually assaulted. He was never prosecuted because he was one of those pillars of the community types.
I’m too strong willed for my own good. I’m in a female dominated field.
Why are people assaulted? Because people assault them. Especially those in positions of power because they know they hold the marbles.
Edit: assault happens to everyone, not just women. Corrected.