<p>I am in class with a girl who goes on and on about how wonderful she is. She has the best parents, most amazing boyfriend, a fancy car…and she puts others down. She even had the nerve to say that she will never have a student loan but critisized another kid for having one. The most unbelieveable comment she made was “if people knew how much my family was worth they would just die.”</p>
<p>How do you handle people like this? She acts as tho she has all the confidence in the world and not a worry. Secretly I kinda wish that something would happen to her to put her in her place (but I hate to admit I am thinking like that)</p>
<p>Generally, people who talk like this are pretty insecure. It sounds like she doesn’t have much in the way or social skills and will be a lonely person. Confident people don’t have to put others down and brag as you indicate she does. People like the one you describe DO cause others to wish bad things might happen to “put them down a peg.”</p>
<p>Selective deafness or avoiding her when you can is a good thing to practice. We should all focus on the things WE CAN change and improve and work at those rather than things that are outside of our control. NO ONE can know what the future will bring, all we can each do is our best to make the most of what we have.</p>
<p>And as I get older I feel more pity towards them. I have found that secure people who have a lot to be boastful about tend to keep it to themselves whereas those who are insecure cannot stop talking about themselves/giving unsolicited advice to others.</p>
<p>People like her in the majority of cases have little true friends. The number 1 ranked kid in my class said last year that he disliked it when people “beneath” him complimented him. Just ignore people like her. And if she criticizes you directly, point out how annoying and ungrateful she is.</p>
<p>Consider using this as a “case study” and simply standing back and observing her behavior and how others respond to it. Are some people turned off? Do others try to befriend her in order to use her status/money/etc.? Does she seem to have any genuine friends?</p>
<p>Lots of young people who “act” hyperconfident get this attention. It’s only when the “crowd” grows up a bit and gains some perspective that they see it for what it is. Your focus should be on being the best person you can be, according to your values. Work toward the day when these sorts don’t grab your attention. Don’t give them that power over YOU.</p>
<p>Think about Eleanor Roosevelt’s words: no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.</p>
<p>I"ve been alive too long now to think anybody’s good fortune will go on forever and be uninterrupted.</p>
<p>The kids I knew in High school and college who had it the easiest have not all gone without their share of pain. It dulls down most of the sharp edges over time. I mean, there are always a few “big shots,” but it just looks exhausting to me, to be honest.</p>
<p>People like this frequently turn out to have narcissistic personality disorder, which, at your age, tends to be attractive and “look like” confidence. It’s not the same.</p>
<p>OP - When you get older you’ll come to realize that everyone has problems, and that no one’s life is to be envied. And boastful people will cease to be of any concern. </p>
<p>Just as I thought when I saw the thread title, none of parent posters who do that^ repeatedly (bragging about their kid/clothes/job/travel/friends) are posting here.
do they have selective reply/read/listen habit?</p>
<p>OP kid, that (selecting/blocking) sure is a good life skill to have.
problem is, braggers don’t go away and they don’t usually change, in real or virtual life.
too bad you have to occupy the same place and breathe same air. It must be getting you bad if you are posting here and asking for advice.
I don’t know if it helps but,
I have a friend who had a queenbee classmate who tormented everyone yet kept her throne as these things usually goes.
much later she found out that queenbee was hit by the car and paralyzed from neck down.
when she bumped into her in their hometown, then evil girl acted as if she was a long lost friend.
all that intimidation, resentment, ill wishes (yep, my friend admitted she had it time to time) melted away.
life is a marathon with no winners or losers but keeping your pace and making it to the finish line.
you are so young and long way to go. keep looking forward and one step ahead of all that.</p>
<p>Is this the same person you were posting about last winter?
It might help you to talk to a cognitive therapist on why you are so stuck on her behavior.</p>
<p>^emeraldkity
yes and no
have you noticed it’s plural? “parent posters” or “parents posters” “parents poster” whichever the grammatically correct one.
and nah, I figured out enuff if it is the person you are thinking it is (I never said he or she)
the other party pretty much spilled beans in PM.
It is resolved in my end.
thanks for your consideration and taking time to post.</p>
<p>OP kid, ^this is what I mean. If you’ve done more than half way of your life, you get to see stuff you didn’t see before, but it won’t make me wiser nor not bothered by it.</p>
<p>oh bears and dogs I was addressing OP- I am sorry I wasn’t clear.
:o
OP has started five threads covering similar topic- so it is obvious it really bothers her but I thought that a counselor might help her learn why she has trouble ignoring this person.</p>
<p>D’oh!! I must have been really caught up in that.
people laughed at my bad English and this certain poster was darn scary!!
I did think weird, you are the “nice” parent poster and I did not recall last winter in particular…
phew
sorry, is to you from me.
and OP
for sidestepping</p>