I just love my housekeeper. Then the deal was sealed last week when she had to bring her 4 year old daughter with her. What a charmer.
Is it wrong to like be friends with your “help”?
My housekeeper has worked for our family for around 50 years. She started with us when I was in high school and now she works one day a week for me and one day for my mother. She turned 80 this year! She’s a member of the family now and she says she won’t retire until she can’t work anymore.
So yes, I love my housekeeper!
Me too. Our housekeeper started as our babysitter and has been with us for 29 years. She has some physical issues and comes for a couple of hours a few days a week now. She’s essentially a member of our family (will be a guest at our son’s wedding this fall) and we consider this more of an annuity than a job for her at this point.
Yes, my housekeeper was with us for 16 years and she was the only person I trusted my children with when they were very young. She kept my house, assisted with school runs and sports practices, travelled with us and generally helped us raise our children. My H travelled constantly for business and she got me through the early years when the children were infants. She came with us to France when my H had a long term assignment.
I never really even thought of her as “help”-- my children loved her and she was a great friend to me. Sadly she returned to her country of origin when her own H retired. We keep in touch.`
Although I like and am friends with the person who helps keep my house clean, I dread the day she comes. She tends to be a talker and often is here well into dinner time. And yes,I have asked her to come earlier.
I tend to try and not be here most of the time she is here.
My husband loves our housekeeper – me. I like her most of the time.
High-five, ChoatieMom. 
Many of my clients treat me like family. I was asked to do funerals for several of them.
Arnold Schwarzenegger “loved” his house keeper too
When I was young and growing up in a housing project, I swore that I would have a “cleaning lady.” When I had enough money to hire one, I felt guilty about it and always made sure it was H that was home when she worked and not me. When I was downsized, I had to let her go and I have not had one since. I have never been able to pinpoint the source of my guilt other than that I felt the cleaning lady was judging my parenting skills, which was likely more in my head than in hers She probably just wanted the money.
I love our housekeeper very much, as I am married to him. DH does the majority of the housework, although I certainly pitch in from time to time.
I don’t think it’s “wrong” to be friends with an employee, but it can make things awkward if you become unhappy with her work, need to reduce hours or choose not to employ her any longer.
IRL, I’m a pretty private person and don’t care for instant intimacy, so I was taken aback by two housekeepers who quickly started acting as if we were friends when I was just being polite. Neither one lasted long, one due to drinking on the job and the other due to not being punctual (as in, arriving two hours late without contacting me.) I went back to using a service periodically, but do the majority of work myself.
I love myself.
We did have a housekeeper I liked very much, but we always maintained professional boundaries. She eventually quit to be a full time nanny for another of her clients.
We now use a cleaning service (similar to Merry Maids). They have different crews, so we don’t always see the same people.
Is there a “type to love your housekeeper”? What’s not to love about if the price is right and job well done?
My spouse liked the male cleaner (part of a m/f cleaning duo) so much that he was hired to do extra projects, such as replacing a large glass window and (eek) installing an egress window. This guy seemed down on his luck and was nice and my spouse wanted to help him out. Neither of these big projects worked out well and my spouse ended up getting rid of our cleaners for a year or two as a result of the awkwardness involved. Then we hired someone else.
So I guess our problem was that we were too friendly or involved with them in some way that didn’t work out well.
I love my housekeeping H. I pitch in from time to time but he does much of it plus most of the the “handyman” jobs. :x
I use a cleaning service. I leave the house as they walk in the door. I have zero desire to have a relationship with my cleaning service or really any professional I use. Not my cleaning service, my lawn service, my doctor my accountant etc… Do your job. I will pay you.
My mother on the other hand became such good friends with our first housekeeper (who stopped being a housekeeper many many years ago) that she was matron of honor at her wedding and gets together with her all the time.
I’d hope so. I did marry him and all 
My cleaning lady doesn’t speak english. I speak a teensy bit of spanish. She’s very sweet, but I don’t see us getting overly involved in each others lives. I love her though, she does the best job of anyone I have ever hired.