<p>My Mom spent a few years morbidly looking up ways to distribute her ashes to her children - beyond the living reef and paperweights, there is a whole industry of people willing to put a little bit of Mom into all our homes. Her favorite idea was within a Christmas ball until I reminded her that 11 months of the year, those ornaments would be in the basements or attics of her children and mine, I know, have spiders. She hated spiders so the idea was nixed. Now, her ashes are in my Dad’s house somewhere, he keeps offering to give me some of Mom but I have declined.</p>