<p>Yes, it’s tacky. A shower is one of the few events where presents are the whole point. People do all kind of things, but throwing yourself a shower, or any gift related event is in poor taste today as ever. </p>
<p>Not everyone has a baby shower and if no one has offered, throwing one for yourself is inappropriate. The assumption is that if you are having a baby, you are responsible enough to afford the basics. People will also send gifts after the baby is born and probably be just as generous at that time.Some people avoid having a shower altogether because they don’t want anything in the house ahead of time or because it is just not practical logistically. </p>
<p>But as rude as it is, I’d also be leery of saying anything critical of the plan unless you are also willing to host, your relatives have solicited or are receptive to your advice, and you are close enough to have this level of honesty with them.</p>