<p>I still think you would be doing her a kindness to let her know that it is not considered becoming to throw yourself a shower. That is, if she refuses to let you do it.</p>
<p>I gave a baby shower for one friend of mine. Another friend gave a shower for me. Both were coed and fun. Neither of us had mothers or other female relatives in the vicinity. Honestly, I would not have found it tacky for a mother or aunt or sister to give a shower. (Of course, it also would never have occurred to any of us to have a registry for a baby, OR to have a shower at a restaurant or country club. We held them at our homes.)</p>