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<p>Because hosting a “shower” for yourself (i.e. shower the person with gifts) is doing exactly that. I get that being overly concerned with social “rules” just for the sake of rules is too much, which is why I don’t see a family member hosting a shower as being a huge problem. But “anything goes these days” is just the opposite end of the spectrum as being ridiculously rigid with regard to manners or traditions. Sorry, “come to my house and give me presents” is just poor form.</p>