<p>I don’t think they need to judge her as a bad person. At the same time, they don’t need to pretend that this isn’t a blatant gift grab, because it is. I would feel the same if a person hosted a birthday party for themselves and provided you with an Amazon wish list. </p>
<p>I often roll my eyes at people who insist one must live their lives according to Miss Manners’ dictates. However, I disagree that people can behave however they want and everyone is forbidden to notice if it is lacking in tact or consideration. “Anything goes” is no worse to me than Rigid “You MUST.” </p>