<p>I agree with Ema that it’s not polite to correct any adult or point out their etiquette transgressions unless asked for advice. But I also agree with consolation that in reality I might say something as an explanation for my offer to host in this instance. It would just really depend on the closeness and nature of the relationship. Some people feel strongly that they can never, ever give unsolicited advice even to their own adult children. </p>
<p>Speaking of Miss Manners, you are all correct that she maintains the traditional view: </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-extravagant-showers-are-burden-for-both-hosts-and-guests/2012/07/03/gJQASgANpW_story.html”>http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-extravagant-showers-are-burden-for-both-hosts-and-guests/2012/07/03/gJQASgANpW_story.html</a></p>
<p>However, not everyone agrees: </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.emilypost.com/social-life/celebrations-through-life/575-baby-showers-who-hosts”>http://www.emilypost.com/social-life/celebrations-through-life/575-baby-showers-who-hosts</a></p>