<p>The OP asked for opinions about the subject of women giving themselves parties intended to generate gifts. No one is calling up the hostess to give her a hard time. This has nothing to do with whether or not giving birth is a joyous occasion, and it’s not about antiquated notions of social behavior. The OP asked a question, and we are giving our opinions. I personally think it’s crass to host a baby shower for yourself. I just do. Just as would think it would be crass to have any kind of party for oneself where the central aspect of the party is to sit down and receive bounty from the guests. Others are free to disagree and host their own birthday parties, baby showers, wedding showers, bachelorette parties, etc. as they see fit. There’s certainly nothing stopping anyone who thinks anything goes these days.</p>