<p>In our family, we all agree it would be in poor taste to host a shower for yourself or even for your mom to throw a shower for you. If you are only inviting closest relatives, it is fine for an aunt or other close relative to be the hostess. I have thrown showers (both wedding and later baby) for my niece (helping our D and her cousins to do so). It was fun and very joyous. All those attending gave nice gifts at the shower and again upon the birth of the baby. Several of us aunties combined to give a deluxe stroller/car seat combo (which was exchanged for a different model by the happy couple). My niece would never have considered throwing her own shower and was very surprised when her office also threw her a wedding shower and later a baby shower.</p>
<p>If I were invited to a shower thrown by the person being honored, I would think it unusual but attend or not, depending on whether I wanted to participate.</p>