<p>Okay, these aren’t girls who I’m stalking or have pursued in an annoying or unwelcome manner. THEY initiate conversation. THEY give friendly hello’s when we run into each other. And THEY add me on Facebook. So naturally, I’m thinking, “This girl wants to be friends”, so I put a message on her wall, ranging from a simple “How was your weekend?” to “Ever want to hang out sometime”? And then these girls never reply! Hours turn into days turn into weeks until you ultimately accept that you’ve had the online networking site equivalent of being stood up. It’s pretty disheartening to see that in her recent wall history, your single message has been the lone unanswered one. It feels like rejection, but not even satisfying, because there’s the remote possiblity that this girl had a moment of unbelievable stupidity and not seen your message AND failed to read the email notification of said message being posted. </p>
<p>I mean, what motivates behavior like this? I, and probably 99% of all rational human beings, would not go out of my way to be friendly to a person, then totally ignore them despite seeing their unreplied message on my Facebook wall every time I log on. What madness is this?</p>
<p><em>Beef of the Moment: Facebook, and all of its participants.</em></p>
<p>And the winner of this topic…Mr. Payne!</p>
<p>Can anybody remember all the outrage over the whole “news feed” thing? Come on! If you’re going to put all your personal info on the Internet then don’t complain when sitemasters make it more available to people who you already marked as your “friends” anyway!</p>
<p>I’m one of few college students WITHOUT a Facebook account…</p>
<p>I wasn’t flirting, I was merely being friendly. And remember, they initiated the first move of friendship. Since when is a “How’s it going?” or “Want to hang out?” a form of flirting (and if you consider it to be so, man, no wonder you haven’t gone far with the ladies). </p>
<p>I just blame non-instant forms (e.g. non-personal) of socializing for this kind of annoyance.</p>
<p>I’m more likely to respond to a message than a wall post.
and you might have better luck actually talking to them in person than leaving random wall posts.</p>
<p>Why would someone ask anyone out through Facebook or MySpace? It’s too impersonal that way. I’d ignore it myself, as in “Let him wait, because I don’t have to turn him down in person, it’s that easy!”</p>
<p>Some of you seem to be under the impression that I have romantic aspirations for any of these girls. YOU ARE WRONG. I’m just flustered because despite friendliness in real life, some of these girls won’t answer a simple “How was your weekend?” from me, while they answer everybody else’s. And again, remember, I’m not the one stalking them; they initiate everything with me.</p>
<p>And there’s nothing wrong with becoming friendly over Facebook, especially if you don’t have any classes with that person and don’t see them that often. What’s the alternative, find out where they live? Find out their phone # on an AIDS donor list?</p>
<p>This is pathetic. Why do you even care about these girls? By allowing them to infiltrate your mind you’ve become a complete loser! Forget about them and forget about facebook. It’s silly to let people you’ve never even met hurt you.</p>
<p>Aww I feel bad for the OP.
If a guy that I wasn’t into asked me to do something over the weekend, I would be a little freaked out. Maybe keep it more generic or casual…</p>
<p>Personally, I prefer myspace…but that’s just because I don’t know anyone that has facebook.</p>
<p>Hm. Interesting. I do not consider my facebook “friends” to be my real friends. Possibly you are misconstruing the two friend-types (meaning, the superficial connection and the personal one)? If you do not know these “girls” except through FB, then they probably do not consider you one of their friends (even if you engage in friendly banter with them at school) and might feel a little creeped out that you want to hang out before you even know them. As a girl, a guy who appears to have one agenda or comes on way too fast can be come off weird or just creepy. I would recommend you view FB for what it is, an online community of superficial relationships/connections between people who have no time anymore due to the modern college rush, and you should not take anything too personally.</p>