This is a very good point. Her fear, perceived criticism of you is really still wanting the best for you. Every parent wants that for their kids. It was never necessarily about you (and every teen is “all about ME” lol) but more about wanting the best for your future and safety. The fear may be totally unwarranted but parents are wired to protect kids.
Just as kids learn to trust their parents growing up, parents learn to trust the decisions of adult children. After all who has been around longer? But who is newer to the work force? Who has a home? Who is the one in current market with new rules? Argh. Don’t ever disregard advice given in good faith. On either side.