I am big on boundaries, and tried to teach my children it was not only ok to have boundaries but essential.
I remind myself (a LOT) that I don’t need to share every thought I have in every conversation. I have a decision tree I try to consult before I question/respond to anyone but specifically my children/spouse.
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Am I the person who needs to say it?
I’d say 90% of the things I think about saying don’t pass that decision tree (low estimate, lol). I will say, I have never looked back and regretted not saying any of that 90%+ of thoughts/questions/advice.