<p>Nice to hear that my kids aren’t so odd. I see the same thing as others, especially the need to stay home. I’m amazed they don’t look up old friends as often as I think they should. </p>
<p>I had to laugh last time oldest said I’m bored. He complained that all we do is watch movies etc. I had to remind him that our social outings have been curtailed by college expenses…we can’t afford to do all the “exciting” stuff anymore.</p>
<p>I love that my college freshman is spending so much time at home. Before he left, he acted like he’d never see his friends again and spent so much time running around that he was never home.</p>
<p>^I agree with YDS. </p>
<p>When my two college kids were in high school, our holidays were often spent out of town skiing or visiting family. Or they were always out with their friends. Now that they’re in college, they say they want the chance to do “nothing”. I respect that. Both of them are extremely busy with school, sports/ECs and jobs and the winter break is a time for them to relax.</p>
<p>Haha. Welcome to kids home from college who do not have jobs to fall back into. They are very busy at college and then come home to nothing to do. If there is not a large social circle at home—you get your D’s behavior. Even with a large group of friends at home, a student often finds there are numerous conflicts with their friends schedule. </p>
<p>My D1 never returned home after her sophomore year. Both S And D2 spent end of junior year summers at an internship not in our location.</p>
<p>They are expanding and becoming adults!</p>
<p>When DS1 came home for winter break freshman year I wondered about his lack if activity. He is in his 3rd year of college now and Winter Break is his only downtime of the year. Summer is work , research, internship. Relax and let the kids rest. In retrospect they will remember this lull in their busy lives.</p>
<p>you could suggest she begin looking for opportunities offered during the summer – internships, jobs, volunteering, etc</p>
<p>It just gets worse, because in later years, they’re much less interested in the old high school friends, leaving them less reason to get out of the house.</p>
<p>^ It is true. I think DS gets out of the house only for few reasons: 1) work out or jogging 2) doctor/dentist appointment 3) occasionally eat out with family members. We moved to a new city so he does not know any old friends here.</p>
<p>I asked him why he bought the Logic music software. The reply: " to prevent myself from being too depressed."</p>
<p>Fortunately, his music related hobby could help him kill a lot of idle time. He could play on his instrument for a very long time everyday.</p>
<p>I think it is good for them to learn to be by themselves, and find some inner distractions. I used to worry that my daughter only seemed happy if she had social plans. Now she seems content to hang on her own. There is nothing wrong with that skill. Most of our kids will outgrow their HS friends very quickly. Strange…</p>
<p>Sometimes they do need time to decompress. </p>
<p>You can have her see if she still remembers her states. I had to brush up 
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<p>One thing to check for is if she is depressed. After all, she just left home so there is a lot to deal with, in particular as some kids no longer feel like home is home anymore.</p>
<p>^^ Hilarious, chefmom3! Thanks for posting.</p>
<p>OP, although it may be late for winter break employment, your D can make plans for the summer. If she won’t be home for spring break, she can start canvassing for summer work this break.<br>
D got a summer job at our golf course and worked quite a bit. Then, when they learned she was coming home for winter break, they texted her to work banquets. She said yes, but after 4 days of work, she was so burned out and told them she didn’t want to work so much. They agreed to call her as a sub.</p>