<p>So last month I was offered to join a triple with two other kids. I had a talk with one of them last week and based off the conversation he is assuming I’m straight (no homophobic comments but bringing up being “sexiled” with girls, girlfriends, etc). So I’m stuck in a sticky situation. Should I tell the two that I’m gay or should I just not leave it alone? I’m leaning towards the first option because I just want to be open and honest with them. I don’t want to say yes to this triple and find out that they’re homophobic, or uncomfortable living with a gay person. </p>
<p>So should I talk to them about it or leave it?</p>
<p>Just leave it alone. Assuming you’re not a flamer, they probably won’t even notice. And if it does come up, just admit that you’re gay. I think the way a lot of gays act is what draws the hate.</p>
<p>You could have a lot of problems, leading to uncomfortable feelings all around if they found out and didn’t want to room with someone that’s gay.</p>
<p>Just bring it up, “Hey, you guys don’t care that I’m gay, right?” Then judge their reactions.</p>
<p>It’s best for all parties involved.</p>
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That’s not necessarily true. Maybe he wanted to tell stories or talk about his girlfriend; it doesn’t entail him thinking you’re straight. However, unless there is evidence otherwise, I would think that most straight guys would assume that most other guys are straight (based on themselves and statistics).</p>
<p>I guess bring it up as tactfully as you can. If they seem a little off-put, you could jokingly (or even seriously) bring up the fact that you aren’t attracted to every guy you see and won’t hit on them just because you’re gay.</p>
<p>On facebook change interests to “Men” and that’s about all you need. Most people wouldn’t agree to room with someone without checking their facebook.
Either way make sure they find out.</p>
<p>That’s a hard situation. I would think it would be good for them to know. How long have you known these people? It might be less awkward if you can bring it up out of context with the living situation and just bring it up one day (soon, before you move in) in a natural sort of way. Generally friends know each others’ sexual orientations, so it’s not really weird.</p>
<p>I think that they have a right to know, especially if you are picking your own housing for next year as opposed to it being assigned. It may not be right for them to refuse to live with you based off of your sexuality, but they have a right to make that choice.</p>
<p>to me homophobic is against gay people.
-goes out and votes against gay marriage</p>
<p>uncomfortable is just uncomfortable. Maybe only the “really” flaming gays but not like the 2 guys in Big Daddy
- doesn’t vote either way out votes for gay marriage</p>
<p>Same way I am against Feminism but for Women’s Rights</p>
<p>Homophobic: Afraid of gay people (homo: same – “homosexual”; phobia: fear).</p>
<p>Hating gay people, just being uncomfortable around gay people, or not liking gay people are other things. I don’t feel like looking for terms or making them up out of Latin or Greek.</p>
By that logic, I accept your concession and humble apology. No, I do not find it necessary that you become my servant. Oh, and thanks for conceding about that hierarchy thread, too.</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>(By the way, my post wasn’t directed against yours, but the one preceding it.)</p>
<p>Let me pose it another way: Why would you be uncomfortable in the presence of a gay guy? As I said, if it’s purely because the guy is gay and you are not at all uncomfortable in the presence of someone of the opposite sex, then I think that you’re probably at least a little bit homophobic. (There’s a scale. It’s similar to how most people are at least a little bit misogynistic.)</p>