Jinx or great to have to celebrate and can always return?
Be patient. Don’t do it.
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Not a jinx and you may not be able to return. If you do it and not saying you should - do not let her see it. Gotta be stealth.
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What’s for them won’t miss them, sweatshirt or not. Buy it and hide it.
I would not. If they get in, the school may send them a shirt. If they don’t, you’ll need to figure out what to do with the shirt.
If you want to be prepared for a celebration, maybe pick up some decorative items in the ED school colors that you could use at some other time if necessary without it being obvious. Like candles for a cake, paper plates, napkins, etc…
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Wait until the decision. If accepted you can order some stuff together as part of the celebration!
You can always make a special dinner and get a cake or something that day.
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Definitely do not do this. Wait for the decision. If it’s a “yes,” go out to dinner or ice cream and order the sweatshirt together. If it’s a “no,”you’ll be really glad you didn’t buy that sweatshirt.
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For D19, I didn’t get merch before the decision- but I got a copy of “the naked roommate” and a violet crumble chocolate (violet being the school color) so that I had something appropriate to give her if she got in. (I would have given her the book later as appropriate and just quietly eaten the chocolate if she didn’t, haha.) after a bit of shrieking and texting we sat down together to order a hoodie.
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Our kids both bought their swag on admitted student days…or whenever they visited AFTER acceptance.
DS isn’t too picky. But DD is. She wanted a certain sweatshirt, in a certain color combination, and without a hood.
Don’t do it! My two kids were recruited athletes who both applied ED…no school swag ordered until an acceptance was in hand.
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I did it for my S22. Sweatshirt for him, a Mom one for my wife and a Dad hat for me. Planned to return it all secretly if he didn’t get in, but he did and we wore the gear in our announcement photo.
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For context: I wore my “lucky necklace” to all my son’s soccer games for years. It didn’t matter that – obviously! – there was zero correlation between wearing it, and the team winning. In other words, I am superstitious despite the evidence.
So, no, I would never ever buy a sweatshirt before learning the admissions decision. It might jinx it!!
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I actually took my lead from D19 on this. The only swag she bought on school visits was from would have been her ED2 school! She refused to buy any ED1 swag because she didn’t want to jinx it.
I’m a crazy believer in the power of karma, and the jinx. My husband is a big jinxer and I’ve silenced him many times watching sports.
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guilty….we find out tomorrow….Hoodie, 1/4 zip, and pennant….Ill let you know if it’s jinxy lol
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Never!! Even if it works out and child gets in, doesn’t having the merch on hand send the message that you expected this from them? A lot of parental pressure.
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I would have thought it signaled belief /faith in the kid rather than pressure, but I guess that depends on the family dynamics.
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How exciting!!! Good luck!!! Where did your kid apply?
…especially, if they don’t know that you purchased it (in the event that it doesn’t work out.). I don’t read anything weird into it.
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Likely not jinxy because the decision was likely in before you bought the sweatshirt.
But if not, lots of kids wear other college sweatshirts on their campuses - so there’s that. Or i can send you my kid’s address - she’ll wear it 
I wish your daughter luck tomorrow.
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