<p>Phone calls have been very quick…amazing how quickly she seems to be adapting. Already solving small problems on her own! We are trying to adjust to not feeling so needed right now, but glad that she is already immersed. Her classes start tomorrow…new chapters beginning.</p>
<p>You’re still very much needed…and I’m not even talking about tuition. It’s the stability you offer from home – even if it’s not being summoned as often or for as long as you like – that liberates her to explore, take risks, and feel free.</p>
<p>Think of her as a scuba diver out at sea, staying under for long periods at a time, finding new things. And you’re the boat, anchored above. Sure, she’s going places that are far from land that she’s never seen before and figuring things out on her own…but none of that would or could take place if you weren’t there for her, creating the opportunity AND remaining there to provide the stability she needs to do these amazing new things. If she didn’t know you were there and if she wasn’t relying on you, she’d simply be lost at sea with a much larger set of problems to focus on. So good for you. She may not be surfacing as often as you want…and when she does, it may not be to say, “Hey, thanks for taking me out to this coral reef and staying here while I check it out.” But every minute she’s down there doing her thing is a celebration of the fact that you are her rock and island.</p>
<p>Love the analogy, d’yer maker! Makes sense and helps put things into perspective for us parents.</p>
<p>^^It is a lovely analogy. Intellectually it works. Emotionally I was happier when she was still on the boat, while I ran around, anticipating what she would need when she started her dive and finding ways to get it for her. Now I just keep looking over the side, hoping for a fleeting view and remembering how much fun it was the first time I held her while she floated in the water, clinging to me and begging me not to let her go.</p>
<p>Stop laxtaxi, I’m going to gag on my snorkel and drown.</p>
<p>^I choose to take that comment in good humor and won’t tell you to please, feel free to gag yourself on your snorkel.</p>
<p>No offense intended, I couldn’t resist.</p>
<p>D’yer Maker: Thanks for the analogy…it is very appropriate, and a good thing to keep in mind, especially these first few transition weeks.</p>
<p>Ok, how about the call from the ADVISOR that makes you CRINGE???</p>
<p>I had talked to S and got the “everything is easy” report. Knew THAT wasn’t quite true. He did say math was the hardest of all, but he felt good about it. Ok, advisor call says, one assignment (can’t remember if it is history or english) not turned in and a 73 average in math! UGGH!!! That’s his best subject, not to mention it’s “easy.”<br>
Doesn’t sound like his organization/study skills have improved. He still thinks he can get by doing just the minimum. WHEN IS HE GOING TO FIGURE IT OUT??</p>
<p>Ok, I feel better now. Thanks. :)</p>
<p>Linda, give him time, he’ll get the hang of it.</p>
<p>Thanks D’yer, great analogy. It’s helped me see more clearly.</p>
<p>Got a call from son tonight, it’s has been three weeks in school, it’s about the time for him to have a hair cut but he told me, someone in his dorm did hair cut job for other kids last weekend, he said he wanna have a try.</p>
<p>OMG, is this ok ?</p>
<p>Yes, it’s just fine. Soon he’ll have a floppy head of hair. Long everywhere but NOT touching the collar! Hopefully you’ll be able to see his eyes peeking out from under the mop the next time you see him! :)</p>
<p>His hair is so thick and straight. Last year, after all the interviews, he tried not to have hair cut for more than two months. All hair ‘stand up high’, neighbor said we need a ‘mini lawn mower’ to handle this.</p>