Why do people assume they are having sex in a car? I or my boyfriend at the age didn’t even have a car but we still manage to have sex. We would sneak around and had sex when our parents weren’t home like most teenagers do. Also at least one of them are 18. At that age, you can get a hotel room. At least that’s what I did at that age. Having sex in a hotel was so much better than trying to have it in your parent’s house. That way you have hours to be with each other and cuddle and talk and feel like a real grown-up couple. Instead of feeling like teenagers trying to get a quickie because mom and dad are downstairs.
Apart from a very small number of people who delay engaging in sex until marriage, either out of religious conviction, or intense (and unhealthy) insecurity about their sexuality, or both, this is something that happens with every kid, and therefore with every parent. There are minor timing differences – some may wait until they are at college (although, honestly, why would you want them to deal with starting college and starting sex at about the same time?). But those differences are pretty ephemeral. So almost every parent goes through this, and pretty much all of them survive it, albeit maybe with some adjustments to what they thought life was going to be like. The OP will survive it, too.
Did things get edited out?
I met the love of my life the first week I stepped foot on campus. Had sex for the first time that first semester. We celebrate 40 years since that event this coming January.
So, what do I do whenever our son attempts to embarrass me with any talk even remotely sex-related? I put my fingers in my ears and yell, “LA-LA-LA-LA-LA-LA-LA…” until his lips stop moving and he and my husband are rolling on the floor with laughter. Works every time. I’ve avoided all sex and other distasteful discussions this way. My husband assures me that our son is well informed but, but the time he says “well,” I’ve got my fingers in my ears again.
Yeah, a bit nonsensical now. 
Not sure the horse of this thread can be put back in the barn again at this point either.
Actually, I have not deleted any posts here, and I checked the change log, and none of the other moderators have deleted anything here either. If any post is nonsensical, it is not due to it being an orphaned post.
I’m so shocked that a thread in the cafe has gone off on tangents. 
A user had two posts that they edited to just be a single hyphen after the things said therein were questioned. The posts are gone now…swear they were here, though. @skieurope
@bodangles Sorry, you are correct. I did delete those. Since I have no idea what the original posts said before they were edited to a period, I took a stab at the responses to them, and deleted those.
bodangles isn’t losing it. I saw both the posts and the edited posts (I think they were actually periods, not hyphens, but that’s irrelevant).
If the moderating log isn’t showing anything, there’s a problem with the log.
Not to get us more off topic, but when I was looking at the log, I was looking at what other moderators had done. I just forgot that this was the thread that I had deleted out the period posts.
The median age to start sexual activity in the U.S. is 17.
My D was in her first serious relationship at age 16 and it turned sexual by the time she was 17. I had had many “discussions” (actually more like monologues) about birth control and sexual health and had offered her a first visit to the gynecologist. She told me because she wanted to take me up on that visit, to which she went alone. I knew she was much more likely to listen to the GYN about sexual health than she was to listen to me, I sent her to a GYN who was known to be very good with high-school-age women. It cost me a lot since she was out of network but it was well worth the price. So no, I didn’t feel “burdened” with the knowledge.
As for where they had sex, I’m sure it was in our place. Cars aren’t an option for most high school kids in NYC; they can’t drive within city limits until they are 18. I’m equally sure that they wouldn’t have wanted to do it when I was home. My daughter and I were pretty careful to inquire/inform about the time I was coming home. I’m a single mom and she’s an only child so there were no siblings or others to consider.
I worried a lot about the relationship ending with broken hearts on either side, but that was the beginning of really letting go for me. I realized that it was out of my control.
"Why do people assume they are having sex in a car? I or my boyfriend at the age didn’t even have a car but we still manage to have sex. We would sneak around and had sex when our parents weren’t home like most teenagers do. "
Well, I think that was originally brought up as a matter of, if they don’t have sex in their parents’ houses ever, a car is a likely alternative. I know some parents make lots of rules about when BF/GF can come over, and in many cases I suspect kids break those rules. I never really made any rules like that. But if I did, and they broke them, I’d prefer that to a car, probably.
I would not be terribly bothered, as I said, if my kids had sex at that age when we weren’t around. The dogs would probably try to barge in on them though 
So maybe they would find somewhere else.
Haha. I remember my parents completely freaking out when they were out one night and came home unexpectantly early. My friend Tommy was in my upstairs bedroom when they came home. My father was furious and my mom had a talk with me. Tommy was/is gay. Haha
I thought of this when people keep saying their kids are probably having sex in their home. Obviously that is what my parents were concerned about. But that was way, way back in the 70’s.
Very surprised that the son so casually mentioned it on a drive home. I can’t imagine, but my parents’ idea of sex education and safety was to put a couple of pamphlets on the coffee table in the den where we watched TV. No way I going to touch them. I was sure they’d memorized exactly how they placed them and were going to dust them for fingerprints after I went to bed. 
After a couple of days, they put them under the TV remote thinking there was no way I could miss them there, so I avoided the den entirely and watched TV in my room. They were gone a few days later and that was the end of that. We laughed about it later. They said they’d go check every day to see if they’d been moved and finally gave up. Ha!
The OP’s son employed my parental tactic for having such “talks” in reverse. Haha. I discovered that a moving car was a great place to talk about such things. Nowhere to escape and no need/abillity to make eye contact!
I bought several sex ed books for teens and young adults and left them randomly around the house. They moved all over the house so I’m pretty sure both S and D read them. There was one or more written for girls and one or more writing for boys. Both kids were and are voracious readers, so it seemed the best and easiest way to provide quality info. Neither kid wanted to discuss any of the materials or books with us but hopefully chatted with friends.
Neither of my kids was in a relationship in HS, so I am pretty sure they weren’t intimate. It makes some aspects of life less complicated if they wait until they are more emotionally nature.
Going back to the question of age…
In the county next door the age is 18.
If an 18 yr old touches sexually another person younger than 18 and it is reported the 18 year old
will go to jail and be registered as a sex offender.
I know a person who works at the county jail and I inquired when my S just turned 19 yr old wanted to date a 17 year old who lived in that county. The report can be as little as a hand on the rear that a neighbor reports and this goes for same sex or the female being older.
The person I consulted with told me about currant awful situations of young people being convicted.
So, everyone, be aware of the different counties rules.
Back to the actual situation–I would be pleased with the conversation, encourage condoms, and not allow sex in my home if there are younger kids.
Did not allow D to sleep in the same room as her BF when S was still in HS
Did allow S to have GF in room when he was in college and no younger kids.
One of the few perks being the youngest.
So if there are two 17-year-olds in high school who are dating, they have to put their relationship on hiatus during the period between one kid’s 18th birthday and the other kid’s 18th birthday?