<p>This is probably the weirdest question ever asked in a college forum. I post a lot in the SUNY Buffalo forum, and I find everyone here to be very helpful and active. </p>
<p>So here’s the deal: I was accepted to SUNY Buffalo today. It’s my top choice and the school I want to go to. Both my parents are graduates of UB. The problem though is another school. My dad wants me sincerely to go to UMass Amherst. It’s a good school, big, and has a lot of what I want in a college.</p>
<p>My dad doesn’t want me to go to UB though (weird that he doesn’t, even though he’s alumni). I’m afraid that if I get into Umass, he will only pay for school if I go to Umass, meaning UB will be out of the question. If I were to be rejected from Umass, I go to UB and everything is dandy. The problem though, is that I don’t know if I will get rejected, and I have a feeling I’m going to get accepted now.</p>
<p>Can you ask admissions to reject you? It’s such an odd question, but it’s sincere and in my mind, and my mothers, it’s justified because UB is where I want to go.</p>
<p>Thank you for any answers!</p>
<p>Whether you can or can’t isn’t as important as whether you should. It isn’t right for you to deceive your dad into paying. You are, or are almost, an adult so it’s time to act like it.</p>
<p>You’re not getting it. My father wants me closer to home and that’s why he wants me to go to Umass. I love UB a lot more and is the school I want to go to. I can go to UB if I get rejected from Umass, because there will be no other option (other then the lower schools I’ve been accepted to). </p>
<p>In any case, I’m not deceiving my dad. It’s not his choice, It’s mine. An “adult” should have the freedom to do what he/she feels what is right.</p>
<p>I don’t know, but why not call them and ask.</p>
<p>Or you could just withdraw your application.</p>
<p>I totally get it. You are afraid you won’t get what you want if you are honest, so you are thinking about manipulating both the situation and your father. I’m assuming you wouldn’t tell your dad what you did, which is why it is dishonest. It’s sort of like (although definitely not as bad as) poking a hole in a condom when you know your parter doesn’t want children. That isn’t the way an adult plays the game.</p>
<p>Yankeefan- The appropriate thing to do is to sit down with your father and talk to him. It may seem selfish that you want to go to UB, but in my opinion, as a young adult you have to take the reins and be in control of your own future. Assuming you have really put some thought into your decision: to try and appease your parents isn’t going to make you happy in the end. But withdrawing your application will only complicate things… the best way to resolve the situation is to confront your parents directly about the situation.</p>