I used a mediator because it was less expensive, but met once with a lawyer of my own. This was the most cost effective way that also ensured my point of view was represented.
Our house was sold a few years after the divorce as stipulated in our agreement, once the kids were out. We split the proceeds. No way could I buy at this point. I also was a stay at home mom due to health needs of kids. I rent and often live in a studio or seasonal rental.
I’m fine, and the kids got financial aid based on my finances.
I do get alimony of $400/month to make our social security benefits more equal.