A third year law student who has studied Family Law in this state is better than letting the ex-husband call the shots. A “do it yourself divorce” is adequate for people who have been married for three years with no children or assets to speak of, when both parties are in their late 20’s with plenty of working life ahead of them.
It is a terrible idea for a woman in her 50’s or 60’s, when there are kids, assets, possible liabilities, life insurance, IRA accounts.
OP- did you review your tax returns before signing in the years when you filed together and do you have copies you can share with a legal advisor?