<p>@M2K I’m with you there. I bet there is a lot of “wishful” thinking when filling the weight out.</p>
<p>"Once the niece and BF separately or together brought up and mentioned the BF’s SAT scores to OP in conversation, they effectively made it her business. "</p>
<p>Mentioning something to someone doesn’t make that thing the second person’s business.
If I say to you that I’d like to lose a few pounds, that doesn’t make my weight your business. If I say my kid is applying to X college, that doesn’t mean my kid’s college search becomes your business. If I say I refinanced my mortgage recently, it doesn’t make what I paid for my house your business. </p>
<p>Good god, OP, let it go. It’s trivial and inconsequential.</p>
<p>I don’t think Ive updated my weight or height since I got my license.
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<p>A little late, but I would like to thank Barrons for giving me a big and much needed laugh!</p>
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<p>It wasn’t just the comment itself, it was the context. I loved the way the thread built from, maybe it was x… to maybe it was y… and, what about maybe z? then that comment put it all into proper perspective.</p>
<p>You may laugh; I think telling someone to get a life crosses the line into rudeness. </p>
<p>To return to the actual subject at hand: OP should drop it because she actually doesn’t know that anyone lied about anything. Since the boyfriend was upfront with her, the chances that he lied to the niece are low; far more likely that there was a benign misunderstanding somewhere along the line (but less likely, I think, that someone bothering to get SAT tutoring is so forgetful that he doesn’t remember whether he got in the mid 600s or a perfect score). </p>
<p>However, if I actually believed the boyfriend did lie, yes it would give me some pause, and yes, it would be something I would bring up with a loved one. Most people who lie about things like weight and age distort the truth by five or ten pounds or a few years. This, if it were really a lie, would be a more substantial whopper, even if we agree that test scores really aren’t all that important in a significant other. There are a lot of things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things that I still don’t think should be lied about; if the boyfriend talked about his awesome trip to Paris and it turned out he had never been, I would consider that a problem, too.</p>
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<p>Actually, if you communicated that to me because you came to seek advice in my hypothetical capacity as doctor, dietician, or a fitness instructor to lose weight, your weight then does indeed become my business. In those contexts, to think otherwise would be absurd as that would defeat the entire purpose of coming to seek such advice in such professional contexts.</p>
<p>Likewise, the OP was told of the SAT scores by BF and niece in the context of BF seeking help with improving his SAT scores and help with college application stuff. Thus, in the context OP was involved in…the SAT score discrepancy IS HER BUSINESS and telling her to “get a life” is not only harsh, but completely uncalled for.</p>
<p>^^ There is no discrepancy as reported by the BF to his tutor.</p>
<p>Agree if BF did lie, which I agree seems unlikely, that would be a minor lie but not a white lie.</p>
<p>Gosh, I think lying about your SAT scores is like lying about your weight. </p>
<p>Most people do it and most people know you do it. Sheesh, there are other things to get my undies in a bunch about.</p>
<p>Are you sure your niece wasn’t the one lying when she told you to try and make him look better?</p>
<p>^^^^^^</p>
<p>That was my thought as well.</p>
<p>*Gosh, I think lying about your SAT scores is like lying about your weight. </p>
<p>Most people do it and most people know you do it. Sheesh, there are other things to get my undies in a bunch about.*</p>
<p>Hey, my MIL is 29. The problem, of course, is that H is nearly 30 years older than his mother.</p>