<p>If we don’t know enough to comment, then you, babybird, at age 17, don’t have a right to judge either.</p>
<p>i think that the comments on the first page (the only page i read) were too critical. i personally don’t believe in marriage, but had i been in your situation, i would have arranged for a divorce even before the affair. while i do understand that the affair was spontaneous, you should have spent some time thinking things through. you could have said to your husband, before pursuing this other man, that you were unhappy with your marriage and needed counseling. </p>
<p>based on what you posted (on the first page) about you and your husband, i come to the conclusion that you weren’t meant for each other. your husband cheated on you before and now you cheated on your husband. you chose to cling on to him after his affair for your daughter’s sake, but how is she benefiting from your being together? did you ask her what she thinks? </p>
<p>you’re at fault this time, but your husband must be feeling awkward because now, he’s the victim of your affair when years before you were the victim of his affair. i would apologize to your husband but if he’s not willing to take you back, then don’t insist. if over time you realize that you truly love each other, you’ll find a way to get back together. or more immediately, the effects of reverse psychology may work to your advantage.</p>
<p>my advice is probably easier said than done but that’s just my two cents. also, this is written by a 16-year-old so more likely than not, my thoughts about marriage don’t have a firm basis yet.</p>