UB might actually be your best option (if money comes into play).
Great school. There’s a parent on there whose kid chose it from California, had a wonderful experience and wonderful job.
It’s engineering - you need ABET. You don’t need aero although it’s fine to have. MechE will work as well for aero and give you more options.
Jobs are (today) plentiful and most large companies pay by job/location and not school attended.
If you get into a reach but your parents are concerned financially, don’t worry - you won’t miss a beat.
Good luck.