Children of Divorced Parents

<p>Considering divorce is so common these days, I'm sure there are plenty of CCers with a tale or two to share about it. Do any of you have stories/experiences to share about growing up and applying to colleges under the stresses of a divided family? What limitations did this obstacle put on your life, and how did you manage to overcome them?</p>

<p>I'll share my story if this thread gathers any interest.</p>

<p>my parents aren't divorced but they may as well be. they argue most of the time and never really get along. regardless tho, they've never really supported me when it comes academics or whatever. they haven't pushed me towards any certain college like a lot of over-involved parents do. especially the ones on here..never in a million years would my parents even think about coming to this site lol. so basically they leave it all up to me which can be stressful but it has its advantages</p>

<p>My parents are divorced.</p>

<p>I could write a book. Don't think I should, though.</p>

<p>Mums been divorced 4 times and she's only 36 lol. I honestly don't care anymore.</p>

<p>My parents have been separated for 5 years and they're currently in the process of getting divorced. All my mom talks about is my dad and his girlfriend. She's way too bitter and overly dramatic.</p>

<p>Parents have been divorced for ten years; I found this out a few months ago. The only limitation their marital status imposed on me was an inability to sleep, since they would save their screaming matches for the wee hours of the morning.</p>

<p>Their antics make me laugh. They're masters of passive-aggressive behavior.</p>

<p>^^ Almost exactly to what futureexecutive said.</p>

<p>My parents aren't divorced..but they should. Sometimes I don't even feel like I have a father. He's just around occasionally. He doesn't even support my family financially--doesn't even literally send us a cent...while my mom who's pretty much more like a single mom/parent is supporting his ass. Also, my parents aren't very empathetic (while I on the other hand am very) they've never cared too much about my school and they don't really help me out--unless if I keep on insisting for them to. I've basically been independentsince I was in teh 3rd grade . Sometimes I wonder why my parents aren't divorced...it's so stupid. They don't argue too much b/c they're not even in the same country but they dont get along too well. It's such a long story I can't even condense it.</p>

<p>My parents are not divorced per se, but my dad lives in another country - and he never gives us any money except for the mortgage. He visits us two months a year and those two months are very unpleasant. My mom can find a much better husband easily but she doesn't.</p>

<p>same w/ eastafrobeauty and futureexecutive</p>

<p>My parents hate each other, basically, but they aren't divorced. They don't argue that much, because they rarely talk to each other, but when they do, it's always screaming. My brother (who has a different mother to whom my father was never married) always worries that my sister and I will think that this is okay in a relationship.
It was like they were divorced for a while because for 2 years my father was in charge of the development of a chemical plant elsewhere, so I saw him every other weekend. And he was always away internationally, or at least on the other side of the country before that. It was awesome. My mother was very happy. Then she moved out one summer, which fudging sucked, so she came back because I was being awful about it, but now that I've graduated she's leaving again. I don't know if they'll get divorced, but their marriage will be even less real than it already is, with them living 500 miles apart.</p>

<p>My parents separated a few years ago (thank god). I kinda knew that they weren't go through with a divorce no matter how much they (cowardly) threatened each other. </p>

<p>Long story short: My dad was physically/emotionally abusive towards my mom and I, so those ten years of my life were like pure hell, especially with all the domestic violence. I still haven't forgiven my dad for everything and I don't even try to keep in touch with him. I just want to erase everything from my memory, including him. </p>

<p>I really don't want to start some sob story and start garnering sympathy at the moment. But it can be difficult at times and I realized that more this year more profound than at any point in my life how emotionally screwed I am. But it is what it is.</p>

<p>Oh yeah my dad lives in New York and doesn't send any more money than what's automatically taken out of his paycheck and sent to us. So I don't really talk to him because of that.</p>

<p>My parents divorced in November 2009 (yes, right during college app season) after 4 years of constant quarreling and arguing. It was honestly for the better and while it sucks that I don't see my dad as much, it really hasn't affected me all that much. </p>

<p>Because I was 17 when it happened, I didn't suffer the emotional repercussions as much given that I was so used to their ceaseless fighting that the divorce almost came as a relief.</p>

<p>My parents got divorced right before I started high school, and it took them three years to resolve everything. It really shook me up, even though I expected it, so I didn't take many hard courses my freshman year because I didn't think I could handle a stressful workload. I didn't get a job or internship this year because my mom works now, and someone has to be home to watch my younger siblings.</p>

<p>gyrfalk is right, lol asian parents usually stick with each other even if the marriage is rocky. i mean USUALLY, not always of course especially in America, but in China forget about it.</p>

<p>^^^This actually doesn't really have that much to do with what you just said, but I was in an elevator once with three of my friends and I guess we were going over similarities, so someone said, "jump if your parents are married," since we all have married parents. One of those people was Asian. (The other two were white, of Scottish descent and white, of Polish/Jewish descent.)</p>

<p>Yeah, this really doesn't have much to do with anything. Forget I said it.</p>

<p>If there are any stats on it, they might be here: Marriage</a> and Divorce Data I remember reading something in the WSJ about Hispanic rates of divorce, but that was an article on age and divorce, not ethnicity.</p>

<p>Hey Millancad! ;) Congrats on MIT!</p>

<p>Thank you :). Congrats on Berkely!</p>

<p>Thanks! What is your intended major?</p>

<p>Linguistics. Whenever I say MIT, I get "So, what sort of engineer do you want to be?" And when I say "Linguistics!" well, I just get blank stares T_T.</p>

<p>What about you?</p>

<p>Cool! Haha I can see that happening. People associate MIT with anything math and science related. But anyways, applied mathematics for me ;)</p>