<p>Wow, congratulations, Jym! That’s something to be proud of! I meant to email you congrats for S’s Emory acceptance, too. Way to go! Unfortunately I will be en route to DC on Saturday, so I will miss the show.</p>
<p>Dad II congrats to you and your D. We also are in a situation where the selective private school offers are far more substantial than state U. Almost incomparable. It’s sad in a way as my D is matriculating from the state flagship, but couldn’t get lightning to strike twice there for my S.</p>
<p>Thanks, binx. And a BIG CONGRATS to you and your boys too!! Such wonderful news!</p>
<p>jym626,
Great news! I was wondering which school your S would take…getting the huge ride from Tulane is a big honor! Is he going back to visit again or is he pretty certain of his choice?</p>
<p>Hi Countingdown!!
It is such an honor to know that some posters are keeping an eye out for the results of our kids’ efforts. Thanks!! We just returned from the Tulane Honors weekend. He really enjoyed having dinner with chemistry faculty and getting a tour of their labs. The grad students are really happy there as well, which was another plus. He was flattered, if not a bit awe-struck, that the admissions people knew him by name when he walked up to register. I think he is feeling “wanted” at Tulane which is nice as well. In addition, they are very clever. The arranged an opportunity for the visiting students to meet with faculty advisors and set up their first semester schedule. So, once he makes the final decision and sends in his proof of immunizations, he can pre-register for classes. That’s pretty nifty. So, all in all, it looks like he is headed to NOLA!</p>
<p>Very, very cool! DS has been contacting profs at all three schools on the final list and they are so welcoming and enthusiastic…he didn’t have his heart broken in admissions, but I know it will be dinged up prtty good by the time he has to choose. It is going to be very, very tough to decide. My thoughts are all over the place at the moment, so I am just keeping my mouth shut and coming here instead!</p>
<p>Great job, folks. Big fun, isn’t it? The Dance of the Goats. </p>
<p>And yeah, it’s pretty tough to let go of that last school. Sometimes tougher for the kid, sometimes tougher for dad. ;)</p>
<p>jym626,
Great job by your DS#2! A close friend’s son graduated from the Tulane Honors program last year and loved his experience in NOLA. Special congrats, too, for his upcoming community service honor!</p>
<p>Can you clear some space in your PM box? :)</p>
<p>jym, congrats to your son on the Emory acceptance! It seemed like he was going to pick Tulane all along and I think it’s great because the main thing is for a kid to go where they want and be happy and I can’t imagine anything better than my child being happy with their choice! So, go celebrate!</p>
<p>I prefer emails, thanks.</p>
<p>My daughter has moved on after a supremely and surprisingly disappointing round of waitlists and rejections. But I can’t seem to do the same. I think it is because this outcome would make up for all the disappointments her unconventional ways have brought throughout the years.</p>
<p>One example to illustrate: When she was the only kid on the block not invited to the birthday party that was held in the yard ajoining ours; we could see and hear all the festivities. I would placate myself with the knowledge that they may exclude her, but folks who matter more will welcome her unique style one day! That sort of thing. </p>
<p>She has been a social outcast since preschool. I wanted it to end with college, and I thought her brains and accomplishments would bring it about. The rejections and waitlists feel like more of the same, I guess. </p>
<p>In a blisteringly painful twist of irony for me, but a blessing for her, she doesn’t even see it. She has a very limited ability to judge or understand social circumstances. She is like a mentally challenged person who doesn’t know she is being teased, and laughs along. But I know, and it hurts so bad. </p>
<p>As in so many things, she should be my example. She has moved on and is thinking ahead, no longer giving the closed doors any notice. </p>
<p>Anyone else in the same place?</p>
<p>I am not in your shoes but can identify with your pain. Maybe when she gets to college things will change, or you may be able to move on without giving those others who are boors a thought.</p>
<p>When Chelsea Clinton was at Stanford, one of the reporters for The New Republic who was based in Boston did a piece about Stanford. Chelsea turned down Harvard, and there was some shock at the time that she would head west. I remember the reporter, out in California during the winter, commenting on the weather and atmosphere. He concluded by saying about Chelsea’s choice of Palo Alto over Cambridge something like “Smart, smart Chelsea.” Congrats!</p>
<p>Not in the same place – but I’m here to listen, as are others here on CC. It’s important to have a place to vent & I hope doing so here has brought you a measure of comfort. </p>
<p>By the way, all of us parents suffer for our kids. It’s our role in life. So don’t feel guilty about it.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure that I carry my kids’ hurts for longer than they do. (I can still get worked up about that bad call in the second grade softball tournament!) My son had some dismal and unfair failures relating to trying to become a lifeguard and a swim instructor last summer. It still makes me sad and furious to think about them but they are long forgotten, ancient history to him.</p>
<p>We’re moms…what can I say?</p>
<p>I’ll bet I’ve never forgotten a single slight to my child. I know it’s not healthy to hang on to these things, but it’s very hard not to. I have an unconventional child too. He managed to keep a few really close friends, but most people couldn’t understand a lot of what he wanted to talk about. College is better, as I knew it would be and I hope (and think) the same will be true at one of her excellent options. But vent away–it can’t hurt and it might help.</p>
<p>Maybe our suffering for our children is what makes it so easy for them not to be affected as much by the disappointments. Our kids know they are adored and will always carry that through disappointment. Je<em>ne</em>: it sounds like you have done a good job with your daughter; she knows she is loved and her identity and sense of self-worth is not caught up in where she got into college.</p>
<p>Grind over it, cry and fuss. Surround yourself with like-minded folks and stay away from the moms that shake your certainty or make you feel bad. Your daughter will triumph and already has. The fact that she has called friends, discussed the waitlists and moved on is proof the she is on her way to success.</p>
<p>Why do you have to bring this subject up? I told myself don’t ever write anything on CC any more but then I saw this.</p>
<p>With all the joys, I still felt very badly about that one rejection. DD was over it before she opened the e-mail, but I could not. </p>
<p>I hope she will get in 4 years from now for a Ph. D program.</p>
<p>“As in so many things, she should be my example. She has moved on and is thinking ahead, no longer giving the closed doors any notice.”</p>
<p>YES!!! It’s not how many school accept you. All you need is one school where you will be socially happy and academically challenged. Smith is a terrific school and I’m sure your daughter will thrive there and wonder why she ever thought she might prefer to go to school elsewhere.</p>