<p>@eastchestermom I have found that my girls have both grown so much more from their “failures”. (Or really “redirects”) than from their successes. When they are usually successful at anything they attempt, it is heart wrenching for both Mom and Daughter. But over the long haul, when they’ve had to pick themselves back up and figure out a new plan of attack, they’ve come out the other side wiser, stronger and happier. I hope that you and your D will have this same experience in time! We are all rooting for her!</p>
<p>@EastchesterMom…so sorry for your D…that is the worst feeling for a parent; to see their kids hurting and nothing they can do to help.</p>
<p>All kinds of learning experiences in this post. “There is no such thing as failure, only feedback”. What any of us do with that “feedback” is in our own hands. Sending “power” thoughts to EastchesterMom and D. Also NewYorkSon and S, congrats on making it through your “trial”. Hopefully each setback we overcome makes us that much stronger for the next one. Life can be hard for those who at a young age never get the experience of creating their own success after a “failure”. ALL of our children will be experiencing obstacles in their futures. Let’s hope they gain the wherewithal to overcome. Sure hurts though.</p>
<p>Eastchestermom - did your D apply to Virginia Wesleyan? - I think their extended deadline for application is tonight at midnight. Ohio Northern might still be open for application too - not sure.</p>
<p>Eastchestermom - If you can figure out the search function, look for cmujohanna from a few years back. She was rejected from all her schools, but tried again the next year. She was accepted into 6 of the top schools, and ended up graduating from CMU. I remembered her when I saw your posts. I don’t know if your daughter wants to try again or follow another path, but things will turn out for her.</p>
<p>D won’t apply anywhere else; we’re done. Can’t even discuss Plan B right now because it hurts too much. But we will.</p>
<p>I’m sorry. Va Wesleyan is non audition I think and Ohio Northern accepts video submission so really easy if prescreens were done. Just a thought, but I get it. </p>
<p>Please don’t think of a gap year as a Plan B. It’s really just another Plan A route. There is more than one path to her end point. (( More hugs for you both.))</p>
<p>I agree completely. A gap year with training is a fine choice, with plans to audition again (or go a different route from there). Not everybody in a BFA program starts at age 18. It’s cool. Find the path that feels good for you. And big hugs to those who are struggling right now. I’m so sorry. This is so tough.</p>
<p>@EastchesterMom- there is nothing worse than a child who is suffering. I am so sorry that your daughter, and
you, are having to deal with this. </p>
<p>@eastchestermom- Quite a few of D’s freshman classmates at Roosevelt/CCPA have completed 1 or more years of college or other training elsewhere (community college, etc.). Being an “older” student is very common in the BFA theatre world. I know this doesn’t help much right now, but know that it will be OK for her! She will NOT feel out of place if she starts a year later.
I feel for you, as a mom you can never be happier than your least happy child. Sigh.</p>
<p>Columbia College in Chicago is a no audition BFA in musical theatre with an audition after your freshman year. I planned on that being my plan B, I don’t think a gap year is good unless you have an opportunity to work in the theatre. Indiana has a BA that can take the same classes as the BFA. You just have to trust that you are right where you are supposed to be. Everything will work out.</p>
<p>Columbia College has a non-audition BA in MT. The BFA is audition-only after 1 year.</p>
<p>@eastchestermom Suny Fredonia still has an audition date of March 29th she may be able to get in for an audition. </p>
<p>@eastchestermom I posted this in the theater forum, but was thinking of your daughter as well when I wrote it.
As the chances of any BFA acceptances loom further out of reach, my daughter has taken a very serious look at a reputable BA program and is making lemonade out of lemons (her situation, not the school). This endless waiting has provided her with a serious opportunity to really examine what she might want from her next four years. She has begun to realize that she will create a wonderful college experience even within a BA choice. She wants to ride for the equestrian team, take acting classes in NYC and experience that city as often as she can. A BA will afford her that chance. Because her tuition will be completely paid by the university, she can spend her summers abroad in acting programs there. I am proud of her thoughtfulness and willingness to see beyond the BFA and find excitement in the new adventure ahead. I have a feeling that even if a BFA option appears in the next week or so, she will still go the BA route. Our children really do have what it takes….and as their routes vary they all reach their destination. </p>
<p>Wonderful post bisouu. Sounds like your daughter has a wonderful adventure ahead of her. She also is wise and thoughtful like her mom. 
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<p>It is so great to see so many encouraging posts of support. In the short time I have been learning from this Board I have come to see that there are so many different paths to success and so many different definitions of success in this crazy world of MT. Last night we had the pleasure of seeing the national tour production of West Side Story and it was interesting to see in the bios of the very talented cast that the backgrounds were all so varied and diverse. Represented in the education department were BoCo, Penn State, NYU, AMDA, Arizona, Oakland, WVU, UC Irvine, Point Park (B.A. - not B.F.A. - and that was the lead of Tony), Western Michigan, Shenendoah, SUNY Purchase, Rhode Island College, UMass-AMherst, NY Conservatory for Dramatic Arts, Indiana University B.S., Elon, Washington University and San Francisco Conservatory. And that was just those who listed college education. Several did not and a couple were straight out of high school. And this is just an example of one company. Just goes to reinforce that there are many paths to reaching a dream. </p>
<p>So glad you posted this. I cringe every time I see someone stress over getting into a “top” program, as if only certain schools lead to individual success. </p>
<p>@bisouu – My D is also going to go the BA route at Wagner, the same school where she suffered her greatest failure. They have a non-audition theater performance major, where she will start. If she decides to try again next year to get into the BFA, that will be her decision. I have never been prouder…it takes guts to go there and be on the outside looking in, especially since a classmate got in to the MT BFA. Oh yeah, and the huge scholarship they offered ( her grades are stellar) eases MY pain somewhat. Not what we expected, not what we wanted, but it’s a pretty good Plan B.</p>
<p>EastchesterMom- Take another look at the Wagner website- I don’t believe they have a BFA program…</p>