My D never ran into any rude auditors at her auditions. As well, to my knowledge, most colleges notify EVERY applicant of a decision. But that doesn’t mean that those notifications are out yet as it is only March 18. Many of my kids’ schools notified close to or on April 1. If your child doesn’t hear something from a school by April 1, then a call is in order to find out why no decision has been received.
In general, most colleges do not treat students as teens or children. They treat them like the adults they are or are soon to be. Once a student turns 18, they are legally adults and schools will not speak to parents about things that do not involve parents. Yes, they may answer general questions about housing or move-in, but don’t expect colleges to speak to you about roommate problems, grades or scheduling. And if your child has issues that require medical care, they will not speak to you about that either. For some situations, they will talk to parents, but only if students give their approval.
Yes, the schools understand that parents (sometimes) pay the bills, but really it is a world in which they would rather not have parents involved. They feel that their role is to prepare students to be independent of their parents and to force them to navigate the real world on their own.
So some of those vibes will come through at auditions and interviews.
In regards to Webster, their decisions have not been released yet. I believe that snail mail notifications should be going out soon (likely next week).
@rocsocks A year ago today my D got onto the priority waitlist at BSU. Three days later we flew from CA to Muncie so she could sit in on classes, meet students and faculty and show her high level of interest in the program. She decided on that trip that BSU was where she wanted to be and if she didn’t get into the MTO, she would pursue a theatrical studies major (BA) and reaudition for the MTO in the fall. She also let BSU know that it was her Number 1 choice. About two weeks later she got the call from Ball State Bill that she was in the MTO program. I think there are two others in her program that made it in off the waitlist. PM me if you want any more info.
@uskoolfish yes I totally get that when your child becomes a college student and turns 18 they need to step into the “becoming an adult” role. I am trying to prepare my daughter for that now in increments that she can reasonably handle. I was referring in my post to colleges treating the under 18 / not graduated from high school yet group as if they are twenty something. Like during auditions etc when they are still a high school student. I just don’t feel like we should be treating kids under 18 like they are anything but a kid under 18.
At one of the colleges my son got into the director of Musical theatre spoke with my husband and I as well as with our son. She shared that she sends a couple of emails out to the parents each semester letting them no what is going on. While we were there I heard numerous MT students refer to her as “Mom” HAHA I loved it because sending my son hundreds of miles away…It is reassuring knowing that someone has his best interest in mind. I am fine with him having two moms who will hold him to a certain standard. My feeling is if a school is going to invest very heavily in a student, then the family goes along with it. Someday people will realize when Mommas happy everybodys happy! 
Being respectful has nothing to do with age. One should always be respectful and polite. Also it is the 18 year old senior who is the one hiring the school to teach them… I said earlier we luckily have not run into the rude “artist” teachernbut I have many nieces and nephews that have a few horror stories from some very high end schools.
@okpackers - would love to know what school that is. Sounds great and like a very supportive environment
Sending notes home to parents is nice, truly. However, it is not really the norm for colleges. I have two kids who have gone to college, one for MT and one not. Neither school sent any notes to parents (except about graduation information) and I never expected it. As well, I had no contact on my end of things with any college faculty. Honestly, college is a different thing than K-12 (when I was very involved in my kids’ schools). I think it should be that way. I say this even though my MT kid started college at age 16. My kids were independent in college. They could call home for advice, but they were the ones who dealt solely with the college personnel. You can have a very supportive college environment without mom or dad involved directly. College is a stepping stone of sorts to independent adult life.
Well hopefully we won’t encounter instances of overly rude or disrespectful people in the fall when my D starts to apply. But I know there will be someone who is and that’s ok we will deal
with it.
I do agree that we are the ones paying for the program such as you said @sbc and we are “hiring” that school and indeed interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. I think in the rush to apply to all these schools and in the position of wanting them to take your child so desperately as there aren’t enough spots etc, that we as parents are forgetting that. This is not a job interview where THEY are paying YOU for an acting role like in a real world audition… You are trying to find the right place for the person you have raised for the past 18 years. You are paying TONS of money to get this accomplished. I know we are at the mercy of a major that is extremely competitive but I am determined to remember this.
I agree that it would be very unusual for schools to be communicating with parents with notes, emails, etc. to report on how a student is doing.
Sometimes ignorance really is bliss.
Notes home sounds like a very nice, personal touch. But with two sons in college right now, I guarantee you, the communication better not be going the other way. My sons would have my head! :)) One son is struggling right now in a very accelerated language course. The professor seems very out of line. I have words for him. Lots of them. But, guess what??? I’m out of it. S wants to do it on his own. And, more importantly, he needs to do it in his own. The last phone call I made on his behalf was to a teacher in his senior year of high school. He didn’t like me butting in at that time but it was my prerogative and his efforts had failed. I know no one was suggesting a parent call a school and get involved in their kid’s business, but it happens all the time according to the president of a major university where my S is attending. And, personally, I have found the years from 17-22 to be the most challenging. You can’t order the world for your kid anymore, you can’t put them in timeout, you have little control over choices made. The world doles out the consequences. It’s rough sometimes. And I completely agree @mom4bwayboy! I have found ignorance to be bliss many times with my college-aged sons!!! :))
@mom4bwayboy Hee hee so so true:)
@mom4bwayboy …Yes!!
Yep, sometimes they have to navigate their own bumps in the road. I have two boys in college and one boy graduated. There are some things moms just don’t need to know - or fix.
@okpackers I had a “mom” at my college. Loved her would love to know which College that is. Thanks!
Funny, all the moms who “don’t want to know” have boys.
I noticed that, too @Jkellynh17 
That made me laugh @Jkellynh17! Just last week, D’s housing for next year came crashing down around her ears, and she had to deal with it. It was a stressful few days, and she was really upset, but I was so proud of how she handled herself and the situation!