Oops! Sorry! You’re right, of course.
@MTheaterMom did you use a coach? I think I would first talk to my coach about it but if you didn’t use one then go straight to the department.
@MTheaterMom OMG, as if this isn’t stressful enough on all our kids - this is the last thing any parent needs to hear. I don’t know if I could have kept my mouth shut. EVERY KID works extremely hard to get to this point - I see it in all our auditions - emotions are all over the place because this is a very BIG deal for every kid auditioning. Not only do our kids have to apply academically - but they also have to put themselves out there again to audition and hope to get into a school they want to be at. There is absolutely NO excuse for this behavior - especially if they are current students at that college/university - I would probably wait until after your D gets into a school - but I would definitely contact the department of that school and let them know how unprofessional and potentially harmful that kind of behavior could be to ANY student auditioning for that school. So sorry this happened.
@MTheaterMom , and I tend to agree with @marg928 as far as knowing what school it was. Personally I would want to know what kind of students a program has and this does not speak highly of the school!
Thank you for the kind words and advice! It’s so funny because I normally would have said something immediately, but I was so shocked and didn’t want to sabotage her audition any more, so I just sat there.
I keep telling myself that these are kids and since D didn’t hear, no real harm was done. However, MAJOR turnoff!
On to the next set of auditions today! @myloves thanks for the reminder to focus on the good! 
Try not to give another thought to your reaction; I’m sure I would’ve just sat there, too. I’m not confrontational at all, plus I would’ve been too stunned and appalled. Later, I would’ve thought of many brilliant ways that I could’ve reacted, of course, lol!
@myloves HAHAHA! That was me all night…I’m always brilliant after the situation! =))
@MTheaterMom I am so sorry for what you went through. I am angry and upset for you. My d and I did not attend Chicago Unifieds and I was second guessing not going. I am glad we didn’t go. This entire process is awful and heart wrenching. I would never tell my daughter about that. There is no point for it. It was real insensitive and I would not let my d go there. I know our kids need to have thick skin but you also want your kid to be in a supportive environment. I hope and pray that the rest of you experience is good. Hugs to you and your d.
@MTheaterMom What an appalling thing to have to sit through. I think it reveals a very ugly behind the scenes vibe at this particular school. I understand why you wouldn’t want to post this school publicly, but I’m sure many of us would like to know. In my opinion, the way students treat each other is just as important as the quality of the teachers at any given school. If you can’t behave like a professional, you won’t work in this industry.
@MTheaterMom Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sure it was hard to put that out there. I agree with @marg928 – if you used a coach, DEFINITELY tell her/him about this. If not, then you need to find some way of letting the head of the department at the school know. I hope that the department would take this as a serious violation of etiquette and speak to those involved, if you can identify the particular students.
In this major, the interpersonal relationships and character of the students is extremely important so it sounds like this is NOT a school that my D would be happy at. I certainly understand you’re not wanting to post the college name here, but if you feel comfortable doing so, I would like to know in a PM so that I can steer my D in another direction if it’s one she’s accepted into.
I am so sorry you had to hear that hurtful nonsense. I doubt I would’ve remained as calm and professional as you did. Kudos to you! And Best of Luck to your D in all her auditions!
@MTheaterMom hugs to you! And kudos for not saying anything and keeping it together. If those were students saying it that’s not acceptable. I think that’s shows some serious immaturity on the part of college students. Sounds more like high school students to me. Onward & upward to you and your D!
That’s horrible, so sorry @MTheaterMom.
@MTheaterMom … Ugh! What a horrible thing to happen! But here’s the good thing - your daughter wouldn’t want to be at a school like that anyway. If they are smack talking out in the open at Unifieds, I can only imagine what goes on in the theatre program at that school.
I’ll echo the thoughts of the other poster that I would make the department head of that particular school aware of what happened. I can’t imagine that they would be okay with that - and I would think they would like to know how their students are representing their school.
Break legs today!!!
A bright spot this afternoon – My D was late getting in her request for an auditions at Marymount Manhattan and found that all the MT slots were full but was told she could video submit to the WaitList via Acceptd. Then if they had a cancellation, they would review it and let her know if they wanted her to do an MT audition. I almost didn’t do it because they made it clear that chances were slim and it meant another submission fee. So this Saturday, my D was all set to just do an Acting audition.
Good news is she just got an email that they reviewed her submission and want her to also audition for MT this Saturday! My D is really excited and nervous. Have to say, that as much as she wants MT, she is much more laid back when it’s just an Acting audition. LOL! :-bd
Wow, @MTheaterMom, I had to read that 3 times! Unbelievable. I’m glad that your D didn’t overhear any of it!! i hope that the rest of your Unifieds experience has been great!
@MTheaterMom would you mind sharing the school in which the students said this? I personally wouldn’t want to be in that kind of environment for the next 4 years.
@MTheaterMom - Most of this has been said but I want to add my two cents (for what it’s worth). I helped Coastal Carolina run the BFA auditions for three of the years I was in school. This included selecting students to help me run the auditions, give tours, talk on a Q&A panel, etc. I was never the department chair obviously, but if I had a parent come up to me after an audition and say this had happened to them, I would want to know.
I’m not implying that these students should be harshly reprimanded or kicked out of the program or anything, but their professors should be informed so they are NOT asked to help out with any kind of audition again. That kind of behavior speaks very lowly of a program and I am sure the faculty don’t want a few snarky show offs to be the face of who they teach, and they certainly don’t want any auditionees to feel disrespected.
We are in a profession where tensions run high, jealousy runs rampant, and it’s easy to feel down about yourself. For some folks, the quickest way for them to combat any cracks in their self esteem is to bring others down. It will come back to bite them. So sorry this happened to you. I’m sure your D slayed the audition for their program anyway.
@AlexaMT As always, you know just what to say…and thank you. D has had a terrific experience so far and is blithely unaware of any issues. Based on my gut and what everyone else here has said, I will be contacting the department. I chalked it up to being away from home in a very intense environment. However while we are a “theater family” we have been fortunate not to experience any of the mean-spirited attitudes displayed yesterday. I know that it’s out there, but would be so sad for my D if she ended up in a program with that kind of kid as her peer.
Thanks again for all the support! The CC family here is so wonderful…and indispensable! :x
So my D wakes up this morning in this last day of Chicago Unifieds with her eyes red and nearly swollen shut. Poor baby! She is clearly having an allergic reaction to something - we think it might be the feather pillows because she was so exhausted last night she slept face down. We are sadly skipping her Montclair and Ball State auditions this morning. Maybe we can pick them up in Los Angeles - if not we will just assume those schools weren’t meant to be. What a crazy week this has been. Many highs and a few lows but I am so proud of how resilient my D has been.
@sopranomtmom I’m so sorry! I hope she gets relief soon and has a quick recovery.