@bridgenail What you say is correct and thank you for writing what you did. There is no magic formula, and what worked for one person might not for another and no two paths are the same. Things like summer music programs or prep programs or youth orchestra programs are a help (and I try to say why, rather than say “you have to do this”) but there is little outside having a good teacher that is a necessity. Sadly in the music world families do get inundated with thoughts like that, or get preyed upon by teachers, like telling them “you need to spend X on an instrument, and here is where you should go” (if a teacher ever says that, take it from me, find another teacher).
And by all means, yes, when looking at schools the ‘great teacher’ reputation can be complex. In the solo instrument world, it is usually based on teachers who have been great performers, either as soloists or as members of known ensembles and this is true for the wide variety of music. The thing is, that doesn’t mean they are good teachers, some of the best teachers in the violin world were not distinguished performers and some of the ‘famous teachers’ from what I have heard from ex students and my S’s impression having worked with some of them aren’t very good teachers. This is where a teacher comes in before college or other contacts, it is finding out the reputation as a teacher that is important.
We were fortunate going through this process that we had access to resources, both because of where we were located and financially but it is such a crazy world, there is this impression you need to do more. Crazy things, like kids doing lessons every day, kids who jetted off to Europe to study for the summer with X genius teacher or do prestigious programs there, kids with incredibly expensive instruments, etc, which we didn’t have the resources for and there were people giving the impression only kids able to do that would make it…and it isn’t true.
In the end it comes down to having good teachers who can advance them (and hopefully knows what music is like) and both the kids talent and more importantly, them willing and able to dedicate to the work required to become good. One thing that everyone runs into in this process is you see (or are told, which like most things these days, is dangerous) is that where a kid is in high school determines the future and that is way, way untrue.
My son ran into that, feeling like he would never catch up, that his playing wasn’t good enough, when the reality was he was fine (a lot of that wasn’t helped by his teacher, but that is another story) and it took a lot of years, even into his conservatory years and beyond, to realize that levels do vary and that for example being technically perfect is only one dimension, that teachers see the musicality in a kid, that while they see the flaws or things that need to be worked on they see the potential:)
When I mentioned things that are helpful understand that by no means is that ever “you have to do this” it is why I try to explain why it is helpful but again, in the end it is going to come down to having a good teacher and a kid doing the work, plenty of kids get into good music schools and end up with careers who didn’t do all the stuff I mention. I will add that with my son being a violinist, he never did the glamour summer programs that were sold often as being ‘the best’ and “you have to do these”, the Aspen summer program, Meadowmount, etc, it wasn’t available to us financially and for other reasons.