<p>^^ interesting. According to my D, she would never consider someone as a BF, or to be in a mutually exclusive relationship, unless he has explicitly requested it.</p>
<p>To each their own, I guess. It works for us. We’ve had the “where do you want to go on vacation next year?” chat, we’ve had the “we’d like to live together someday” chat, just haven’t felt the need for the “will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend” chat. I dunno, IMO, it sounds like something you say to the cute guy from high school or something like that. All of my past relationships that had that chat always ended badly and featured very immature behavior, IMO. Not to say this is the same for everyone, but in my case it has been proven true.</p>
<p>But then again, we are 28 and 32 year old adults, so not exactly high school/college aged kids. Both have good jobs, both own our own houses, etc. </p>
<p>I dunno… that’s just my personal opinion.</p>
<p>however… can somebody please explain to me the difference between “seeing each other” and “dating each other”?</p>
<p>Fendergirl, my D is also in her late twenties, it’s just how her relationships have evolved. She’s always dating several people at one time, unless she is in a mutually exclusive relationship, which she is in now. But I do remember whenever she used to tell me she had a new BF, she’s indicated they’ve had that “chat.” I guess it works for her, since there won’t be any misunderstanding whether they are in a monogamous relationship.</p>
<p>For my son, mid 20’s, he is now dating a couple of young ladies, and has not acknowledged that he has a GF even though he was only dating one person at the time. To him, they are just dates, or someone he is seeing, but not exclusively.</p>
<p>So I asked my D what she meant, and she says they are only seeing each other (like I remember going steady ) .I did not ask what their activities were,but she did email me his photo .His eyes looked kind, and he is quite tall (6 feet ) and slender .I guess that is enough for now .</p>
<p>That’s super. Getting an email photo is a big mark in mom-daughter closeness.</p>
<p>My S just announced he’s “in a relationship.” I don’t know what it means. But, I’m not making assumptions that he wasn’t sexually active before the relationship or that he’s sexually active with this new relationship. I’m not sure what it means, or that it’s any of my business. Just something to ponder.</p>