<p>Do you think she should wait until he says something to HER like he is saying to her friends? She does want to hang out with him and be friends, but given that her ex-bf said those same words to her (“I still want to hang out and be friends”) she is afraid of making more out of this than she should. BTW the nice guy told her friends he had a great time on their date and has been texting and calling D, pretty much with the same frequency as before they went on their date. She also doesn’t want to have him think it was something he did on their date (the old “it’s me not you” cliche) - LOL oh brother!!!</p>
<p>Honestly… please don’t be offended, but at this point I think you need to disengage and let your D figure this out for herself. She’s over the initial crisis/heartbreak of the breakup, now it’s time for her to stand on her own feet and figure out what she wants for herself - and that includes figuring out how to handle New Guy. Mom, your jobs at this point are: 1) to congratulate yourself for helping her through the worst of it and, 2) MYOB.</p>
<p>No offense taken ^. I know it is hard to tell from a bulletin board discussion, but I was asking more in the event she asked my opinion and kind of laughing at the fact that things can change so quickly from being the hurt to not wanting to hurt another person. Neither side is easy…</p>
<p>Nodoover, I hope your daughter bounces back quickly. I think this is usually best. From personal experience (my own), I never got over things like that fast, and it was harmful to my own emotional well being. I took every loss of friendship so hard, and it was not good. I know that a lot of people are like that, but it is better to be more carefree when you are young.</p>
<p>I don’t know how to help someone do this, but those more carefree types out there might be helpful.</p>